Jobs and CareersThe Art of Mindfully Changing Your Luck
By Jj Frederickson
Are you lucky?
Or do you ever think to yourself: that's just how it is; I live under a dark cloud; it never comes easy; this always happens to me; it's just been one of those days; life's hard.
Studies show that 10% of our lives is completely random. The other 90%, according to psychologist and author Richard Wiseman, PhD, is actually defined by the way you think.
"Being in the right place at the right time is actually all about being in the right state of mind," says Wiseman in his 2003 book The Luck Factor.
How would you describe your state of mind?
A person who is relaxed, at peace and confident is more likely to see the opportunities presented to them and see the bigger picture. It's not about luck, but about being open to all that life has to offer.
Someone who is frustrated, discontent or stressed tends to stay focused on those feelings and what's causing them. All interactions are seen through that filter, so that we actually expect to keep having a bad day or even a bad life.
Expectations
Do you expect to have a wonderful life filled with peace and ease? Or is life full of struggle and strife? What is the hidden belief behind your expectations?
"When our expectations are a primary factor in the way we think, speak, and listen, disappointment becomes a way of life," says Rhonda Britten, author of Fearless Living and founder of the Fearless Living Institute. "And expectations make everything seem personal, but no one is doing anything to you. You are reacting to your own fear."
Expectations of bad luck are all about playing the blame game. Instead of taking responsibility for the things we can affect and control, we tuck our tail and blame our bad luck. Plus we begin to fear having more bad luck.
Instead of being an "unlucky" person, what type of person do you want to be? Do you want to be loving, compassionate, fun, joyful, giving? What do you value most in you or other humans?
State of being
These qualities or values have nothing to do with luck. They are a state of being. Shifting from luck to a state of being isn't difficult, but it does take your attention and focus. That focus comes from creating an Intention Statement.
For example, if I want to focus on love -- be a more loving person instead of an unlucky person -- I'd create an Intention Statement of "I am willing to be more loving," or "I am willing to practice love."
"Intention is living purposefully. On purpose, with purpose. Proactively, responsibly and intuitively," says Britten. "Rather than the little details of life dictating your every decision, choices are aligned with your essential nature (as a human being)."
Your Intention Statement becomes your filter of the world.
Evidence and filters
Of course, you may have years and years of evidence telling you that you're unlucky. That's what humans do; we build evidence to prove that we are right. As you begin practicing with your Intention Statement, your mind is still going to want to build bad-luck evidence. It wants to prove that your old filter was right.
"Becoming aware of how your brain interprets events is important if you truly want to change your life," Britten says.
To begin to change your interpretation and build new evidence, Britten recommends writing five gratitudes and five acknowledgments every day.
Gratitudes
Gratitudes are like counting your blessings. However, if you are beginning to live by an Intention Statement dealing with love, you'll want to create more awareness about love. Plus you'll want to be very specific to really help your brain change it's filter.
Gratitudes about love may look like: Today I am grateful to see the young mother smile so lovingly at her daughter; today I am grateful that my server at the restaurant took such good care of me when I asked for more butter; today I am grateful for the woman who helped me find my missing gloves.
Those are all examples of love ... love of family, love of work or service, love of humanity. Gratitudes aren't about how you are being loving, but about how you are witnessing and receiving love.
For someone with a bad-luck filter, the day may look more like this: my mother never smiled at me like that; any good waitress would've brought enough butter to begin with; I'm always losing things.
Which interpretation would you choose? Which filter best serves you?
Acknowledge your progress
Think back to a day you wore a brand new outfit or just got your hair cut. When someone gave you a compliment, did you strut a little bit more? Did you hold your head a little higher and smile a little more? Didn't you feel great? Your whole perspective of the day soared, and maybe you even felt like you could take on the world!
Wouldn't it be great to live with that filter almost every day of your life? Another way to support that shift is by journaling five acknowledgments each day. Acknowledgments are compliments to you, for you, from you.
Britten says to acknowledge yourself for the small steps on your journey, "Any new thought you think, any new action you take, any new way of being is an opportunity to stop and praise your willingness to change."
Acknowledging yourself helps build momentum and nurture success. Like the gratitudes, it works well to focus your acknowledgments on your Intention Statement.
Acknowledgments about love may look like this: today I acknowledge myself for smiling at the grocery store cashier; today I acknowledge myself for reading to my son before bed; today I acknowledge myself for thinking about forgiving my sister; today I acknowledge myself for taking a nice long, luxurious shower.
Train your brain to be lucky
Again, you are building evidence and awareness of love and shifting away from that bad-luck filter. You are complimenting yourself for giving more love to the people around you and giving more love to yourself. You are training your brain to shift bad-luck expectations into something that is more productive in 90 % your life.
That's 90% of your life! Instead of reacting to bad luck you become the creator of your reality, mindfully building momentum, trust and confidence along the way.
"Stand in the awareness that good things are happening in your life because of you, not despite you," says Britten.
Practice these tools for at least one week to see if there is even the smallest shift in your perspective. Journal those shifts as you practice being the type of person you want to be instead of blaming bad luck. Intentions, gratitudes and acknowledgments are your tools for training your brain to use your new, empowering filter.
Then, commit to another week or even a month, and note the changes in your relationships and your life. You will be amazed how your luck seems to change, and your journal of gratitudes, acknowledgments and shifts will help you remember your journey in black and white.
"Positive memories make (people) feel happy and lucky and this, in turn, causes them to think about other times when things worked out well for them," says Wiseman. "Instead of spiraling downward, they find their memories and moods work together to make them feel luckier and luckier.
JJ Frederickson is a Certified Fearless Living Coach. She was formerly a newspaper reporter, local on-air personality and dance studio owner, where she spent 10 years teaching and mentoring hundreds of children of all ages. In 2005, JJ hired a Life Coach to balance motherhood and her career. The coaching experience completely transformed her life, and she's now a Life Coach with the mission of helping others bring ease into their homes and lives.
Learn more about Fearless Living and finding the sweetness in each moment of your life at http://www.JJtheLifeCoach.com
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Beginner Guitar Lessons - What Makes a Beginner Lesson?
By Bernice Eker
Many people are aspiring to learn how to play the instrument that is very popular to almost everyone in the world: guitar. Many people are really hoping to learn how to play the guitar because when they watch other people play the instrument; they are given the impression that it is very easy to do so. More often than not though, they get surprised because they are faced by the realization and fact that it is not that easy to learn how to play the said instrument.
So what they do is that they turn into helpful guides such as guitar lessons, whether they are found online or in books. But then many people are also wondering what these beginner guitar lessons are offering its users that are really vital in the learning process of a person who really wants to master the playing of the guitar. This is the role of this article, to let other people know what the advantages of using beginner guitar lessons are.
First of all, every guitar lesson for beginners is designed in the point of view of every beginner in playing the said instrument. Another thing that can be achieved in starting with beginner guitar lessons is that it will tell you exactly what you will need so that you will not have a hard time in learning. These beginner guitar lessons will also set a specific goal for your development. With a systematized lesson plan/lesson outline, a person will really be making progress because he/she will be following specific lessons.
Aside from the lessons, a beginner will be formally oriented and introduced to the basic information about the instrument that he/she is going to use through the course of the entire lesson. Of course, in an informal setup of learning, this will not be taught to the student so there will be information that will be left out in the process of the learning. And normally omitting these kinds of information is not a good idea since these are fundamentals that must be included as a beginner progresses in learning how to play the guitar.
Included in the fundamental aspect of learning is the proper position and holding of the instrument. These are definitely important to be established early on so that in the long run, the student will not have a hard time using the instrument. Even the proper holding down of the strings, plucking, strumming, and even the proper holding of a pick must also be taught to the student since surely, he/she will eventually use these things in the future.
Aside from the actual lessons and instructions, these guitar lessons will also give you useful tips that you will not find in just any kind of book or any kind of resource material. Even the tuning of the guitar will become an easy task for you since you will be oriented to it formally and in an organized manner.
Definitely, having one of those beginner guitar lessons can really help students a whole lot because they are offering a lot of things that cannot be found in other resources available for learning how to play the guitar. These guitar lessons are truly the foundation for a good and long-lasting skill in playing the mentioned instrument.
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Effective Study Skills
By Jeff Weston
Students often fail to secure good grades despite studying for hours. This is because they have never studied effectively. Unless you know how to make your study hours effective, you cannot get the expected results. Here we will give you some glimpses of effective study skills.
A study is called effective if you can remember and recall the major segments of the syllabus that you have read. Do not try to cram chapters that you fail to understand. You will never be able to remember them. The easiest thing to do is to seek the assistance of your classmates or the teachers to understand the confusing portions.
You have to decide what is most important to you. Make your schedule to address those important needs. You should never compromise with your priorities. Never try to finish too many things at a time. Study all the subjects on a regular basis while allotting some time for revisions. Keep yourself motivated. It is better to know the theme of the chapter that you are planning to study. Reading it line by line will then help you understand it better.
Effective study skills also stress on reading methods. You will see that there are some words that have fonts in bold or italics; you should pay special attention to these. You can also try to find whether the current text refers to any other works of the author that you have read earlier.
Effective study skills include listening to the explanations given by teachers. You should read and understand the notes that you have taken in the classroom. Following these aforesaid effective study skills will save you disappointments and help you get the desired results.
Jeff Weston has written some successful e-books that teach students to study smart and not hard. To know about some effective study skills , you can visit our website.
By Jj Frederickson
Are you lucky?
Or do you ever think to yourself: that's just how it is; I live under a dark cloud; it never comes easy; this always happens to me; it's just been one of those days; life's hard.
Studies show that 10% of our lives is completely random. The other 90%, according to psychologist and author Richard Wiseman, PhD, is actually defined by the way you think.
"Being in the right place at the right time is actually all about being in the right state of mind," says Wiseman in his 2003 book The Luck Factor.
How would you describe your state of mind?
A person who is relaxed, at peace and confident is more likely to see the opportunities presented to them and see the bigger picture. It's not about luck, but about being open to all that life has to offer.
Someone who is frustrated, discontent or stressed tends to stay focused on those feelings and what's causing them. All interactions are seen through that filter, so that we actually expect to keep having a bad day or even a bad life.
Expectations
Do you expect to have a wonderful life filled with peace and ease? Or is life full of struggle and strife? What is the hidden belief behind your expectations?
"When our expectations are a primary factor in the way we think, speak, and listen, disappointment becomes a way of life," says Rhonda Britten, author of Fearless Living and founder of the Fearless Living Institute. "And expectations make everything seem personal, but no one is doing anything to you. You are reacting to your own fear."
Expectations of bad luck are all about playing the blame game. Instead of taking responsibility for the things we can affect and control, we tuck our tail and blame our bad luck. Plus we begin to fear having more bad luck.
Instead of being an "unlucky" person, what type of person do you want to be? Do you want to be loving, compassionate, fun, joyful, giving? What do you value most in you or other humans?
State of being
These qualities or values have nothing to do with luck. They are a state of being. Shifting from luck to a state of being isn't difficult, but it does take your attention and focus. That focus comes from creating an Intention Statement.
For example, if I want to focus on love -- be a more loving person instead of an unlucky person -- I'd create an Intention Statement of "I am willing to be more loving," or "I am willing to practice love."
"Intention is living purposefully. On purpose, with purpose. Proactively, responsibly and intuitively," says Britten. "Rather than the little details of life dictating your every decision, choices are aligned with your essential nature (as a human being)."
Your Intention Statement becomes your filter of the world.
Evidence and filters
Of course, you may have years and years of evidence telling you that you're unlucky. That's what humans do; we build evidence to prove that we are right. As you begin practicing with your Intention Statement, your mind is still going to want to build bad-luck evidence. It wants to prove that your old filter was right.
"Becoming aware of how your brain interprets events is important if you truly want to change your life," Britten says.
To begin to change your interpretation and build new evidence, Britten recommends writing five gratitudes and five acknowledgments every day.
Gratitudes
Gratitudes are like counting your blessings. However, if you are beginning to live by an Intention Statement dealing with love, you'll want to create more awareness about love. Plus you'll want to be very specific to really help your brain change it's filter.
Gratitudes about love may look like: Today I am grateful to see the young mother smile so lovingly at her daughter; today I am grateful that my server at the restaurant took such good care of me when I asked for more butter; today I am grateful for the woman who helped me find my missing gloves.
Those are all examples of love ... love of family, love of work or service, love of humanity. Gratitudes aren't about how you are being loving, but about how you are witnessing and receiving love.
For someone with a bad-luck filter, the day may look more like this: my mother never smiled at me like that; any good waitress would've brought enough butter to begin with; I'm always losing things.
Which interpretation would you choose? Which filter best serves you?
Acknowledge your progress
Think back to a day you wore a brand new outfit or just got your hair cut. When someone gave you a compliment, did you strut a little bit more? Did you hold your head a little higher and smile a little more? Didn't you feel great? Your whole perspective of the day soared, and maybe you even felt like you could take on the world!
Wouldn't it be great to live with that filter almost every day of your life? Another way to support that shift is by journaling five acknowledgments each day. Acknowledgments are compliments to you, for you, from you.
Britten says to acknowledge yourself for the small steps on your journey, "Any new thought you think, any new action you take, any new way of being is an opportunity to stop and praise your willingness to change."
Acknowledging yourself helps build momentum and nurture success. Like the gratitudes, it works well to focus your acknowledgments on your Intention Statement.
Acknowledgments about love may look like this: today I acknowledge myself for smiling at the grocery store cashier; today I acknowledge myself for reading to my son before bed; today I acknowledge myself for thinking about forgiving my sister; today I acknowledge myself for taking a nice long, luxurious shower.
Train your brain to be lucky
Again, you are building evidence and awareness of love and shifting away from that bad-luck filter. You are complimenting yourself for giving more love to the people around you and giving more love to yourself. You are training your brain to shift bad-luck expectations into something that is more productive in 90 % your life.
That's 90% of your life! Instead of reacting to bad luck you become the creator of your reality, mindfully building momentum, trust and confidence along the way.
"Stand in the awareness that good things are happening in your life because of you, not despite you," says Britten.
Practice these tools for at least one week to see if there is even the smallest shift in your perspective. Journal those shifts as you practice being the type of person you want to be instead of blaming bad luck. Intentions, gratitudes and acknowledgments are your tools for training your brain to use your new, empowering filter.
Then, commit to another week or even a month, and note the changes in your relationships and your life. You will be amazed how your luck seems to change, and your journal of gratitudes, acknowledgments and shifts will help you remember your journey in black and white.
"Positive memories make (people) feel happy and lucky and this, in turn, causes them to think about other times when things worked out well for them," says Wiseman. "Instead of spiraling downward, they find their memories and moods work together to make them feel luckier and luckier.
JJ Frederickson is a Certified Fearless Living Coach. She was formerly a newspaper reporter, local on-air personality and dance studio owner, where she spent 10 years teaching and mentoring hundreds of children of all ages. In 2005, JJ hired a Life Coach to balance motherhood and her career. The coaching experience completely transformed her life, and she's now a Life Coach with the mission of helping others bring ease into their homes and lives.
Learn more about Fearless Living and finding the sweetness in each moment of your life at http://www.JJtheLifeCoach.com
=========================================
Beginner Guitar Lessons - What Makes a Beginner Lesson?
By Bernice Eker
Many people are aspiring to learn how to play the instrument that is very popular to almost everyone in the world: guitar. Many people are really hoping to learn how to play the guitar because when they watch other people play the instrument; they are given the impression that it is very easy to do so. More often than not though, they get surprised because they are faced by the realization and fact that it is not that easy to learn how to play the said instrument.
So what they do is that they turn into helpful guides such as guitar lessons, whether they are found online or in books. But then many people are also wondering what these beginner guitar lessons are offering its users that are really vital in the learning process of a person who really wants to master the playing of the guitar. This is the role of this article, to let other people know what the advantages of using beginner guitar lessons are.
First of all, every guitar lesson for beginners is designed in the point of view of every beginner in playing the said instrument. Another thing that can be achieved in starting with beginner guitar lessons is that it will tell you exactly what you will need so that you will not have a hard time in learning. These beginner guitar lessons will also set a specific goal for your development. With a systematized lesson plan/lesson outline, a person will really be making progress because he/she will be following specific lessons.
Aside from the lessons, a beginner will be formally oriented and introduced to the basic information about the instrument that he/she is going to use through the course of the entire lesson. Of course, in an informal setup of learning, this will not be taught to the student so there will be information that will be left out in the process of the learning. And normally omitting these kinds of information is not a good idea since these are fundamentals that must be included as a beginner progresses in learning how to play the guitar.
Included in the fundamental aspect of learning is the proper position and holding of the instrument. These are definitely important to be established early on so that in the long run, the student will not have a hard time using the instrument. Even the proper holding down of the strings, plucking, strumming, and even the proper holding of a pick must also be taught to the student since surely, he/she will eventually use these things in the future.
Aside from the actual lessons and instructions, these guitar lessons will also give you useful tips that you will not find in just any kind of book or any kind of resource material. Even the tuning of the guitar will become an easy task for you since you will be oriented to it formally and in an organized manner.
Definitely, having one of those beginner guitar lessons can really help students a whole lot because they are offering a lot of things that cannot be found in other resources available for learning how to play the guitar. These guitar lessons are truly the foundation for a good and long-lasting skill in playing the mentioned instrument.
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Learn to play like The Eagles, Green Day, Pink Floyd, Guns 'n Roses, Jimi Hendrix at Jamorama
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Effective Study Skills
By Jeff Weston
Students often fail to secure good grades despite studying for hours. This is because they have never studied effectively. Unless you know how to make your study hours effective, you cannot get the expected results. Here we will give you some glimpses of effective study skills.
A study is called effective if you can remember and recall the major segments of the syllabus that you have read. Do not try to cram chapters that you fail to understand. You will never be able to remember them. The easiest thing to do is to seek the assistance of your classmates or the teachers to understand the confusing portions.
You have to decide what is most important to you. Make your schedule to address those important needs. You should never compromise with your priorities. Never try to finish too many things at a time. Study all the subjects on a regular basis while allotting some time for revisions. Keep yourself motivated. It is better to know the theme of the chapter that you are planning to study. Reading it line by line will then help you understand it better.
Effective study skills also stress on reading methods. You will see that there are some words that have fonts in bold or italics; you should pay special attention to these. You can also try to find whether the current text refers to any other works of the author that you have read earlier.
Effective study skills include listening to the explanations given by teachers. You should read and understand the notes that you have taken in the classroom. Following these aforesaid effective study skills will save you disappointments and help you get the desired results.
Jeff Weston has written some successful e-books that teach students to study smart and not hard. To know about some effective study skills , you can visit our website.
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