Jobs and CareersHow to Stop People From Asking You For Money
By Gregory Vanden Berge
I've always been a saver and have rarely had to ask anyone for money. Sure I've had a mortgage on my house, car payments and of course the dreaded credit card payoff experience. I've had to borrow money from my father and even my grandparents but it wasn't long after I borrowed money from my grandparents and paid them back that I never asked for a loan again. That was 25 years ago.
Now for the big question, How to stop people for asking you for money? First thing you have to do is stop giving it to them. That's the simplest and most effective method to get people to stop asking. If these people can make you feel guilty, you're going to be giving them money for the rest of their lives.
I know so many people, that approach me often with stories of painful misfortune or gloom and doom in their lives. I have more stories than I could write about, when it comes to guilt and people asking me for money. I used to work on track homes installing stairways. It seemed like, on a daily basis someone would tell me how lucky I was, and they wish that they had my job. I would explain to them, as long as you're wishing, why not wish for a job that makes more money than mine, that way you could loan me money if I needed it.
Some of these people would ask if I could spare a couple of bucks until Friday, when they got paid. Most of the time I would give them what I could afford to loan out and most of them paid me back. The people that made me feel really guilty, were often the ones who never paid me back. Don't get caught up in the trap of loaning people money on a regular basis. Soon you will find yourself loaning them more money and it will start to take them longer to pay you back. It won't be long before these people quit coming around and there's a very good chance you won't get your money, anyway.
You can stop people from asking you for money, by simply having the nerve to say no. Most of the time you're not doing these people any favors. They will keep coming back and often trying to make you feel guilty, because they can't manage their money.
If some one you care about is in dire need, that's another story. There are different scenarios of course that would require different actions but in general, saying no could save you a lot of problems in the future.
You are free to copy this article to your site as long as you include the following resource information with an active link to my site:
Greg Vanden Berge is a published author, internet marketing expert, motivational inspiration to millions of people all over the world and is sharing some of his wisdom with experts in the fields of writing,marketing, and personal development. Check out one of his recommended books, You Can Have It All.
Greg is currently working on a self help library filled with great subjects on a wide array of topics, like religion, self help and spiritual changes in the world. His views on religious freedom are slowly changing the way people think about institutional religion.
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How I Lost My Love of Donuts by Using Thought Field Therapy (TFT)
By Pam Lipe
There were a number of striking events in 1981: Panera Bread opened its first bakery, the Dodgers defeated the Yankees in the World Series, and IBM introduced its first personal computer. In the psychology arena, Roger Callahan, Ph.D., discovered Thought Field Therapy (TFT). He learned a way to apply the ancient science of energy meridians to eliminate modern problems such as phobias, anxiety, depression, extended grief, anger, trauma and addictive urges. It involves tapping acupressure points in a specific sequence combined with actions that balance right and left brain. Emotional distress, that had been resistant to months of therapy, was resolved within a session or two. Even more astounding, some of these issues can be resolved in minutes!
While I was recently trained in the use of this magnificent healing tool, I first heard of TFT in the early 1990's. I was skeptical-very skeptical. My therapist showed me a process of tapping, humming, looking around the room and counting out loud so that I could overcome emotional distress. I found the process to be so odd that I was unable to concentrate on it or do it properly. We were terminating therapy with that session, so I didn't have an opportunity to use the method again. Throughout the years, I heard of TFT off and on but continued to be highly skeptical. I thought it was too good to be true and we all know what they say about things that seem too good to be true.
On March 28, 2009, I participated in an all-day training to learn how to use TFT in clinical practice. In the ensuing 15 years from my first exposure, I had learned that the peculiar humming, counting and looking around the room that my therapist had me do, was accessing various parts of the brain which is a good thing. Axiom I: The more brain mass that we can contribute to a problem, the better. The odd tapping she had me doing was balancing the autonomic nervous system. The Chinese refer to these as energy meridians and Chi. Axiom II: The more focused energy we have the better for solving problems and getting over issues. It is a quick and quirky way to feel better and not be distressed by your own emotions.
For example, during this all day workshop taught by Jill Strunk, EdD, LP, TFTdxVT in Minnesota, a variety of delicious donuts, cookies, fruits and cheeses were available throughout the training. My bane and irresistible temptation has been donuts. I can keep myself from eating the donuts all day, but I keep thinking about them. I get distracted and spend a fair amount of time fighting off urges. So when Jill instructed us to focus on an issue we wanted to overcome, I knew immediately what I needed to target-the tasty pastries and my urge to gobble them up. So, as instructed, I focused on the problem, rated its intensity on a scale of 0 to 10 with 10 being the highest level, and went through the particular series of tappings, rubbings, hummings, and eye rolls.
The skeptic in me was still alive and well but I put doubt aside and did what I was told. I tapped, I hummed, I looked around the room. I no longer wanted a donut. I was no longer troubled by an urge to eat a donut. I continued in the few hours of training left and still did not want a donut. I walked over and browsed the table. I did not feel compelled to have even just a little bit of donut. I looked them over and selected some fruit and cheese.
I was still dubious. Maybe I had just become distracted from thinking about the problem. This really was too good to be true. It was too fast. I love donuts. How could I no longer want one? They remind me of my Mother and sweet childhood memories. I have probably eaten a million donuts over my lifetime. Nevertheless, I no longer crave pastries or donuts. I still have my sweet childhood memories of my mom-minus the donuts.
I have learned that TFT has been used successfully with people who lost family members on 9/11. TFT has helped traumatized people who were in the bombing of the American Embassy in Nairobi, Kenya in 1998. Science has shown that TFT does, in fact, correct for imbalances in the autonomic nervous system. It works for most people. It can be used with children. Whoopi Goldberg was taught TFT in a recent The View television show to overcome her long standing fear of flying. Look for her whole treatment on YouTube. You can go to http://www.rogercallahan.com/ also.
In my clinical practice as a psychotherapist, I have used TFT to rid my clients of grief, anger, sadness, trauma reactions, fears, and anxiety. I have used it in marriage counseling. An angry, intense couple could not settle down to learn the skills of conflict resolution. There had even been threats of violence. I taught them both the same TFT techniques at the same time. They use the procedure to calm themselves during a Time Out.
For myself, I recently went to the bakery section of my grocery store. I did the TFT procedure as I walked around looking at cakes, cream puffs, éclairs, pies, bars, cinnamon rolls, and other delicacies too splendid to even describe. I feel like I am cured of the pastry thing but the skeptic in me will keep an eye out for those urges-just in case. Sorry Panera Bakery.
In my therapy practice in North St. Paul, MN, I use TFT to solve many emotional problems that have caused my client's problems. To find a TFT Therapist near you, Google "Thought Field Therapy" followed by your state or town.
Pam Lipe is a Licensed Psychologist who helps adults and couples resolve life problems so they can live their lives more fully. She is a trained TFT clinician. Check out her website, http://www.PamLipe.com Her therapy practice serves the metropolitan area of Minneapolis/St.Paul, MN
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Important Tips on How to Cure Boredom
By Trevor Johnson
There are many things to do to cure boredom. Really anyone should be able to rid themselves of boredom. It's more of a willpower conversation than anything else really. Those that are in fact bored are only bored because they feel like they have nothing to do. There are in fact loads of things to do and we will go ahead and cover some of those.
One really great way to cure boredom is to find work around the house. I know that most people aren't overly joyous when thinking about cleaning but it helps. Honestly if you only spent a few minutes a day cleaning something around your house overall cleanliness would be quickly achieved. Not only that but a clean environment benefits all. You would be sick less, have fewer health problems and feel better.
Another really great way to cure boredom is to pick a hobby. Find something that you really enjoy and stick to it. Really indulge yourself with a craft, game, etc. that you really enjoy. This not only helps to cure boredom but it really helps pass time. Therefore you won't find that you are as bored as you were before. Continue to do this and watch the time fly by and you'll feel better.
A third possibility includes surfing the web. Educate yourself. Not everything on the web is in fact educational but it is a good way to find out what's going on in the world. This should never be considered a bad thing. When education is mentioned people tend to shy away from doing it in their spare time but this shouldn't be considered on the same level as school. This is educating yourself about anything that you find interesting. The internet is a huge place. All you need to do is surf.
As you can tell there are plenty of things to do when considering how to cure boredom. Just get out there and try some. Really it will work you just need to dedicate yourself to doing it.
If you're one of the many people who eat when they're bored, find out how you can stop boredom eating quickly and easily. Just click here.
By Gregory Vanden Berge
I've always been a saver and have rarely had to ask anyone for money. Sure I've had a mortgage on my house, car payments and of course the dreaded credit card payoff experience. I've had to borrow money from my father and even my grandparents but it wasn't long after I borrowed money from my grandparents and paid them back that I never asked for a loan again. That was 25 years ago.
Now for the big question, How to stop people for asking you for money? First thing you have to do is stop giving it to them. That's the simplest and most effective method to get people to stop asking. If these people can make you feel guilty, you're going to be giving them money for the rest of their lives.
I know so many people, that approach me often with stories of painful misfortune or gloom and doom in their lives. I have more stories than I could write about, when it comes to guilt and people asking me for money. I used to work on track homes installing stairways. It seemed like, on a daily basis someone would tell me how lucky I was, and they wish that they had my job. I would explain to them, as long as you're wishing, why not wish for a job that makes more money than mine, that way you could loan me money if I needed it.
Some of these people would ask if I could spare a couple of bucks until Friday, when they got paid. Most of the time I would give them what I could afford to loan out and most of them paid me back. The people that made me feel really guilty, were often the ones who never paid me back. Don't get caught up in the trap of loaning people money on a regular basis. Soon you will find yourself loaning them more money and it will start to take them longer to pay you back. It won't be long before these people quit coming around and there's a very good chance you won't get your money, anyway.
You can stop people from asking you for money, by simply having the nerve to say no. Most of the time you're not doing these people any favors. They will keep coming back and often trying to make you feel guilty, because they can't manage their money.
If some one you care about is in dire need, that's another story. There are different scenarios of course that would require different actions but in general, saying no could save you a lot of problems in the future.
You are free to copy this article to your site as long as you include the following resource information with an active link to my site:
Greg Vanden Berge is a published author, internet marketing expert, motivational inspiration to millions of people all over the world and is sharing some of his wisdom with experts in the fields of writing,marketing, and personal development. Check out one of his recommended books, You Can Have It All.
Greg is currently working on a self help library filled with great subjects on a wide array of topics, like religion, self help and spiritual changes in the world. His views on religious freedom are slowly changing the way people think about institutional religion.
===========================================
How I Lost My Love of Donuts by Using Thought Field Therapy (TFT)
By Pam Lipe
There were a number of striking events in 1981: Panera Bread opened its first bakery, the Dodgers defeated the Yankees in the World Series, and IBM introduced its first personal computer. In the psychology arena, Roger Callahan, Ph.D., discovered Thought Field Therapy (TFT). He learned a way to apply the ancient science of energy meridians to eliminate modern problems such as phobias, anxiety, depression, extended grief, anger, trauma and addictive urges. It involves tapping acupressure points in a specific sequence combined with actions that balance right and left brain. Emotional distress, that had been resistant to months of therapy, was resolved within a session or two. Even more astounding, some of these issues can be resolved in minutes!
While I was recently trained in the use of this magnificent healing tool, I first heard of TFT in the early 1990's. I was skeptical-very skeptical. My therapist showed me a process of tapping, humming, looking around the room and counting out loud so that I could overcome emotional distress. I found the process to be so odd that I was unable to concentrate on it or do it properly. We were terminating therapy with that session, so I didn't have an opportunity to use the method again. Throughout the years, I heard of TFT off and on but continued to be highly skeptical. I thought it was too good to be true and we all know what they say about things that seem too good to be true.
On March 28, 2009, I participated in an all-day training to learn how to use TFT in clinical practice. In the ensuing 15 years from my first exposure, I had learned that the peculiar humming, counting and looking around the room that my therapist had me do, was accessing various parts of the brain which is a good thing. Axiom I: The more brain mass that we can contribute to a problem, the better. The odd tapping she had me doing was balancing the autonomic nervous system. The Chinese refer to these as energy meridians and Chi. Axiom II: The more focused energy we have the better for solving problems and getting over issues. It is a quick and quirky way to feel better and not be distressed by your own emotions.
For example, during this all day workshop taught by Jill Strunk, EdD, LP, TFTdxVT in Minnesota, a variety of delicious donuts, cookies, fruits and cheeses were available throughout the training. My bane and irresistible temptation has been donuts. I can keep myself from eating the donuts all day, but I keep thinking about them. I get distracted and spend a fair amount of time fighting off urges. So when Jill instructed us to focus on an issue we wanted to overcome, I knew immediately what I needed to target-the tasty pastries and my urge to gobble them up. So, as instructed, I focused on the problem, rated its intensity on a scale of 0 to 10 with 10 being the highest level, and went through the particular series of tappings, rubbings, hummings, and eye rolls.
The skeptic in me was still alive and well but I put doubt aside and did what I was told. I tapped, I hummed, I looked around the room. I no longer wanted a donut. I was no longer troubled by an urge to eat a donut. I continued in the few hours of training left and still did not want a donut. I walked over and browsed the table. I did not feel compelled to have even just a little bit of donut. I looked them over and selected some fruit and cheese.
I was still dubious. Maybe I had just become distracted from thinking about the problem. This really was too good to be true. It was too fast. I love donuts. How could I no longer want one? They remind me of my Mother and sweet childhood memories. I have probably eaten a million donuts over my lifetime. Nevertheless, I no longer crave pastries or donuts. I still have my sweet childhood memories of my mom-minus the donuts.
I have learned that TFT has been used successfully with people who lost family members on 9/11. TFT has helped traumatized people who were in the bombing of the American Embassy in Nairobi, Kenya in 1998. Science has shown that TFT does, in fact, correct for imbalances in the autonomic nervous system. It works for most people. It can be used with children. Whoopi Goldberg was taught TFT in a recent The View television show to overcome her long standing fear of flying. Look for her whole treatment on YouTube. You can go to http://www.rogercallahan.com/ also.
In my clinical practice as a psychotherapist, I have used TFT to rid my clients of grief, anger, sadness, trauma reactions, fears, and anxiety. I have used it in marriage counseling. An angry, intense couple could not settle down to learn the skills of conflict resolution. There had even been threats of violence. I taught them both the same TFT techniques at the same time. They use the procedure to calm themselves during a Time Out.
For myself, I recently went to the bakery section of my grocery store. I did the TFT procedure as I walked around looking at cakes, cream puffs, éclairs, pies, bars, cinnamon rolls, and other delicacies too splendid to even describe. I feel like I am cured of the pastry thing but the skeptic in me will keep an eye out for those urges-just in case. Sorry Panera Bakery.
In my therapy practice in North St. Paul, MN, I use TFT to solve many emotional problems that have caused my client's problems. To find a TFT Therapist near you, Google "Thought Field Therapy" followed by your state or town.
Pam Lipe is a Licensed Psychologist who helps adults and couples resolve life problems so they can live their lives more fully. She is a trained TFT clinician. Check out her website, http://www.PamLipe.com Her therapy practice serves the metropolitan area of Minneapolis/St.Paul, MN
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Important Tips on How to Cure Boredom
By Trevor Johnson
There are many things to do to cure boredom. Really anyone should be able to rid themselves of boredom. It's more of a willpower conversation than anything else really. Those that are in fact bored are only bored because they feel like they have nothing to do. There are in fact loads of things to do and we will go ahead and cover some of those.
One really great way to cure boredom is to find work around the house. I know that most people aren't overly joyous when thinking about cleaning but it helps. Honestly if you only spent a few minutes a day cleaning something around your house overall cleanliness would be quickly achieved. Not only that but a clean environment benefits all. You would be sick less, have fewer health problems and feel better.
Another really great way to cure boredom is to pick a hobby. Find something that you really enjoy and stick to it. Really indulge yourself with a craft, game, etc. that you really enjoy. This not only helps to cure boredom but it really helps pass time. Therefore you won't find that you are as bored as you were before. Continue to do this and watch the time fly by and you'll feel better.
A third possibility includes surfing the web. Educate yourself. Not everything on the web is in fact educational but it is a good way to find out what's going on in the world. This should never be considered a bad thing. When education is mentioned people tend to shy away from doing it in their spare time but this shouldn't be considered on the same level as school. This is educating yourself about anything that you find interesting. The internet is a huge place. All you need to do is surf.
As you can tell there are plenty of things to do when considering how to cure boredom. Just get out there and try some. Really it will work you just need to dedicate yourself to doing it.
If you're one of the many people who eat when they're bored, find out how you can stop boredom eating quickly and easily. Just click here.
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