Coping With Parental Stress While Our Child is Growing Up

Coping With Parental Stress While Our Child is Growing Up
By Luka Dobravc
One of the basic problems that we as parents face is of parental stress. Most of us usually develop this problem as we simply have to worry about the most truthful fact that our kids are growing up into an adult and independent person. They are simply try to learn every thing from the society in which they live and most of the time they try to grasp things on their own the most hard way and try to find out solution all by themselves.

We also need to care about the ability of our kids when it comes to the decision making, they have to know how to take the right decision and how to stay far off from most of the troubles that they may be facing while they simply try to grow into a human being like us. So, all this concerns create a great amount of parental stress. It is simply not easy being a parent for anyone as we certainly have the responsibility of helping our kids to learn and also grow into a fully developed and mature individual. Most of us don't stop being a parent even when our kids grow up and make their way into this world.

Despite of all the above facts most of us simply never stop being a parent. As far as our kids are concerned, we always want to be assuring that our kids are simply doing their best. Things may sound much easier but they in fact are not. Most of the time it really becomes very much difficult for us to let them step out into this world all be themselves. So, at times we find ourselves tied up between the two decisions of whether to let them go or not.

The real problem arises when we have to take a decision between letting them go and face the world or not. So, if we want them to keep moving along with the world then we need to help them to learn how to do it on their own. This is extremely important when we are trying ease the parental stress. We also have to let them learn to make mistakes. It may in fact be very much difficult for us to watch them growing on their own.

We all want to protect our children from the world. It may be a very difficult task but we are at least sure that sometime the world may in fact show up. This may simply worsen our parental stress for some time but it is very important as we simply find ourselves helpless at most of the time simply watching our kids handle their own problems.

But this does not mean that we let them go their way and start ignoring them. We are parents and we need to watch them always. Ignoring them would never help them. We have to let them tackle their own problems their own way but we also need to keep an eye on them. We simply have to give them a chance to do things their way.

So when we are trying to reduce parental stress we have to limit the dependency of our child by educating him and preparing for adult life. This of course does not mean that we have to stop being supportive but we just have to limit the dependency of our child on us. Only when our child enters the path of independent life we can start counting on parental stress relief.

If your child is coping with student stress you might want to know how to avoid student stress and the consequences of financial stress on college student. Helping your child with studies is crucial when it comes to coping with parental and student stress.

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5 Little Steps to Not Being a Jerk
By Robert S. Groth
Yesterday is seemed that I got attacked from both ends (no not the flu) but rather from people I see day to day.

The morning started out with my employee, Lynn. I had been cleaning prior to her arrival and noticed crayon marks on the wall (I have a childcare center in my home). She walked in and I said very nicely, there's crayon on the wall, just watch to see who the culprit is. Her response was, "well, I guess we won't be doing crayons anymore" (in a grumpy tone). My response, I'm not mad at you, or blame you, just wanted to let you know.

Geesh..... should have never said a word was my thought.

Second episode was an email from my tenant blaming me for turning off his gas utilities. He proceeds to call me an "un-Christian woman" and that my faith should be included in my business practices. My response? I never called the gas company, and I can't control what they will do. And, I resent anyone bringing "God" into anything that has to do with "business".

Needless to say, I decided that everyone was having a bad day. My employee was crabby because she had a pinched nerve in her arm and my tenants? Well, usually I receive an apology several days later saying that he went off of his antidepressant med's and was not feeling well.

I think that all of us have our moments when we are not feeling good and have a tendency to snap at someone else. Stress gets to us, our jobs, other people, and environments (in my case screaming kids). It's easy to either call someone else a jerk or feel that you're the one having jerk tendencies.

1. Admit that we are all not perfect. We all have bad days, but I do think most times we all have good intentions. Realistically we can be jerks and not even realize it. For example, our family went to Applebee's Restaurant for dinner last week. I said to the waiter, gosh, you're slow tonight. He thought I was talking about him- not the restaurant. I later clarified I was talking about the restaurant and not his service.

2. Place your self in someone else's shoes: Try to understand how others feel. Hard to do when you've got a chronic disease like MS. But people who are ill look at the world differently. They also have sensory differences as well. I know that my husband can't see very well, but his hearing and sense of smell are far superior to mine. To understand that we all see the word in different spectrums.

3. Act with compassion and love: In reality we are all connected in this world as one, as hard as it has to believe. I've always believed in treating others well. Send out positive into the world and you'll get more positive back.

4. Practice consideration: Realize that every time you are contacted in the world by someone it's your opportunity to give your best foot forward. I'm always amazed at how many people I try to reach out to and don't hear a response. These are opportunities to learn and grow though others. We are all connected together to help one another.

5. Do Little Things Every Day: Think about other people and how you can help them each and every day. The world is not about you, but about all of us helping each other.

Robert Groth author, blogger, and advocate for reclaiming your life from multiple sclerosis. Get his free book at http://www.ConquerMS.com

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Stress Management - Can Stress Really Make You Fat?
By Rachel Ford
Have you ever overeaten when you're upset? If so, you're not alone. Many people turn to food to relieve their stress. They may feel frustrated about a particular situation and want to temporarily feel relief. Before they know it, they've grabbed some food to munch on - and it's usually not an apple or something healthy! In most cases this happens automatically and their awareness of what they are actually doing is extremely low.

When people use food as a defense mechanism, they do so because it gives them spurs of happiness, which indirectly reduces tension (for the moment anyway). It has been observed that if the intensity of stress is very high, junk food or fatty food is the target. If they continue to indulge in this behavior, the result is going to be a lot of excess weight that they never wanted to put on. Health issues begin at this stage and their anxiety only seems to be multiplying with new physical or health challenges connected to their weight gain.

So what can you do about it?

Before you can stop this from happening you need to become aware that you're that you are using food as a comforter. Most of the time this behavior is unconscious and it's only after the event that people realize what they've done. So become completely conscious what you eat. Ask yourself if you are eating because you're hungry, or eating for comfort.

Identify the situations where you engage in comfort eating. Then look at it more closely to determine the cause of the underlying tension that prompts that behavior. Once you've determined the cause of tension try to make changes to your attitude towards it.

Incorporate other ways to relieve stress into your life. Whether you use traditional relaxation techniques or other relaxing activities, you'll find that once you start to relax more, you'll become calmer in all areas of your life. And when you're calmer you're less likely to turn to food when you're upset.

Taking charge of your stress will affect other areas of your life as well. Pop over to http://www.movebeyondstress.com to claim your free Stress Survival Kit today.

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