Jobs and CareersReduce Workplace Stress and Show Your Emotional Intelligence by Believing in Yourself
By Dr Jeff Bailey
Emotional intelligence can be characterized in many ways but the model I use is based on BarOn’s theory of emotional intelligence. This definition includes the following scales: Intrapersonal ( Self-Regard, Emotional Self Awareness, Assertiveness, Independence, and Self-Actualization); Interpersonal Scales ( Empathy, Social Responsibility, Interpersonal Relationship); Adaptability Scales ( Reality Testing, Flexibility, Problem Solving); Stress Management Scales ( Stress Tolerance, Impulse Control); and General Mood Scales ( Optimism, Happiness).
In a recent article I talked about four factors of emotional intelligence: social responsibility, interpersonal relationships, stress tolerance, and impulse control. Accepting responsibility for your relationships with other people, being self-aware, tolerant, and generous in your interactions increases the total productivity of the workplace and reduces interpersonal stress and work stress. Developing healthy, positive, sharing reciprocal relationships is the hallmark of a healthy work colleague and builds a healthy workplace. It is impossible to build healthy, productive work teams when you have people whose personal interests dominate work relationships and collaboration. I also pointed out that people who have low stress tolerance and poor impulse control tend to create hostile, even toxic work environments and definitely add to organizational stress.
I wonder if you're one of these people? You are generous, thoughtful, you tend to give in too often to your more belligerent colleagues, you are too willing to see both sides of the picture, you have a low level of assertiveness, and you believe that other people are better than you. If this is the case, you may have very low self regard and you might feel that, compared to your colleagues, your opinions are of little value and you are nowhere near as competent or intelligent as your workmates. If this is the case, look carefully at the rest of this article.
Two important social-cognitive skills are intrapersonal analysis and interpersonal understanding. When we talk about ‘intrapersonal’ we are talking about how well you know yourself; interpersonal is the relationship between two or more. We all have a picture of who we think we are, how competent we are, what our talents are, how personally strongly we feel, and how much we are benefiting from our life.
BarOn suggests that there are five factors in intra-personal understanding: Self-Regard, Emotional Self Awareness, Assertiveness, Independence, and Self-Actualization. Knowing something about your perceptions of each of these areas is part of emotional intelligence but it is also a way for you to understand and change how you interact with colleagues in the workplace. Unfortunately, and often as a result of child and adolescent experiences, some people have very low self regard. They don't believe they are as smart or attractive or capable as others and their low level of self-evaluation diminishes their capacity to be a strong, assertive, confident contributor to the workplace.
Some people lack assertiveness because of their low level of self regard. They often convince themselves that assertiveness is the same as aggressiveness and they refuse to promote and advocate for their own beliefs and values. Some individuals do not have the strength to form a strong and independent position or view of their life and so they rely on others for their strength and assertiveness. Finally, and unfortunately, some individuals subjugate their own goals in life to the goals of others and they never reach that high level of personal satisfaction and achievement in life that Maslow called self-actualization.
What is interesting about these intrapersonal limitations is that we are the ones who create them. We establish our own standards and evaluate ourselves constantly. If we feel uncertain or deficient we tend to defer to others, rely on colleagues for judgments and decisions, and rarely stand in the spotlight when it comes to decisions and contributions. We become the worker bees, the drones, never the Queen bee.
This is a choice we make and, of course, we can change this position if we wish. A careful review of our skills and talents should lead us to a more positive self regard. We should think carefully about what we believe in and be prepared to voice our thoughts thoughtfully and even forcefully. We should establish our independence and be proud of who we are and what we believe in. We all have the right to achieve as much as we want in this life and we should never let ourselves or other people diminish this right or this opportunity.
It is much easier for me to say these things than it is for my clients to change their behavior but unless I provide a roadmap for improved self regard and convince people that they are more important than they think, they will never self-actualize. Failure to be assertive, having low self regard, being too dependent, and letting other people have their own way increases personal stress and adds dramatically to workplace stress. If these intrapersonal characteristics are shaping the way you behave and feel at work, and if you want to be better valued and have less workplace stress, believe in yourself and make the changes today.
Dr Jeff, a psychologist, writes about workplace stress, personal stress, interpersonal stress, and how to manage stress. On his blog, http://www.drjeffbailey.com, he answers questions from readers. He works hard to make his articles practical and helpful and all of his articles are based on sound research evidence and extensive clinical experience. Please go to his Dr Jeff blog to get your free report on stress.
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How to Conquer Stress
By Quang Van
One of the worst feelings you can have is to be stressed about being stress. But you would be surprise at how many people feel this way all the time.
People feel horrible a lot of the time, and then they feel horrible about feeling horrible. It is an endless cycle of bad feelings. No wonder they feel bad all the time.
If you feel this way, stuck in an endless loop of bad feelings, you have to stop. You need to get out of this loop. You must feel empowered to take action and change how you feel.
One of the key things you have to do is face your problems. You can no longer run away from them. Most of the time when you run away from the things that you are stress about, it doesn't solve anything. You might be gone for a moment but when you come back the problem is still there.
You need to take a stance and face you problems. Deal with your problems head on. Believe me, nothing is ever that complex that someone else hasn't solved before. You can use lessons from the past to solve your current problems.
I don't care what problems you have that you are stressing about. Most problems can be solved if you take the necessary steps to solve them. If you just take the steps, your problems will go away.
What if you don't know what to do? Well if you don't know what to do, it's a good thing that you acknowledge that. The next thing you have to do is find the solutions to your problems. This evolves reading, learning and listening to other people.
This evolves being open minded, trying new things, and being able to make mistakes. Because true learning takes place when you acknowledge your mistakes.
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An Appreciation of Hans Seyle, Understanding Stress
By Bill Tallmon
My alternative health care practice was enhanced after reading Stress of Life by Hans Sleyle who expanded my ideas about stress. Seyle became a MD and Chemist in Europe in 1929, and then came from Europe to Johns Hopkins University in the USA, then in 1936 on to McGill University in Montreal to begin a lifetime of research about stress.
As early as his second year of medical school (1926), he began developing his now-famous theory of the influence of stress on human ability to cope with and adapt to the pressures of life, injury and disease. He discovered that patients with a variety of ailments manifested many similar symptoms, which he ultimately attributed to their bodies' efforts to respond to the stresses of being ill. He called this collection of symptoms the General Adaptation Syndrome (GAS) as the body passes through three stages of adapting.
• Alarm as body prepares for (fight or flight)
• A resistance to the stress
• Exhaustion and aging if stress persists
What stress is not
• Nervous tension
• A discharge of hormones
• The nonspecific result of physical damage
• Deviation from homeostasis
• The alarm reaction
• A specific or non-specific reaction
• Necessarily undesirable, depends on how you take it
So exactly what is stress?
• A neither good nor bad thing, stress is a reaction that may have good or bad effects
• Cannot and should not be avoided
• Can only be avoided by dying
Seyle spent a lifetime continuing research on GAS and wrote more than 30 books and more than 1,500 articles on stress and related problems. So impressive are his findings and theories that some authorities refer to him as "the Einstein of medicine."
Based on his research Selye later wrote:
• The Stress of Life (1956)
• On Being a Scientist (1964)
• Stress Without Distress (1974)
More than anyone else Selye demonstrated the role of emotional response that causes much of the wear and tear experienced by human beings. He died in 1982 after spending 50 years studying the cause and consequence of stress.
My name is Bill Tallmon N.D. PhD. The credentials I earned are a footnote of a personal 25 year journey to experience life free from the trap of modern medicine. My most profound appreciation is for the pioneers who blazed the path to reconnect me to nature, and see the problems and possibilities of modern life in a positive way. Human beings always try to make life a little easier, and through science and innovation have done it. Every essence of the planet, the sun, air, light, darkness, sound, rocks, plants, animals, and the invisible world all exist in the framework of nature. Humans are the only elements of nature who make a business of altering nature. We all must be wary of the motive of those who would help us. Look closely. (beyourowndoc) http://embracingnature.net
By Dr Jeff Bailey
Emotional intelligence can be characterized in many ways but the model I use is based on BarOn’s theory of emotional intelligence. This definition includes the following scales: Intrapersonal ( Self-Regard, Emotional Self Awareness, Assertiveness, Independence, and Self-Actualization); Interpersonal Scales ( Empathy, Social Responsibility, Interpersonal Relationship); Adaptability Scales ( Reality Testing, Flexibility, Problem Solving); Stress Management Scales ( Stress Tolerance, Impulse Control); and General Mood Scales ( Optimism, Happiness).
In a recent article I talked about four factors of emotional intelligence: social responsibility, interpersonal relationships, stress tolerance, and impulse control. Accepting responsibility for your relationships with other people, being self-aware, tolerant, and generous in your interactions increases the total productivity of the workplace and reduces interpersonal stress and work stress. Developing healthy, positive, sharing reciprocal relationships is the hallmark of a healthy work colleague and builds a healthy workplace. It is impossible to build healthy, productive work teams when you have people whose personal interests dominate work relationships and collaboration. I also pointed out that people who have low stress tolerance and poor impulse control tend to create hostile, even toxic work environments and definitely add to organizational stress.
I wonder if you're one of these people? You are generous, thoughtful, you tend to give in too often to your more belligerent colleagues, you are too willing to see both sides of the picture, you have a low level of assertiveness, and you believe that other people are better than you. If this is the case, you may have very low self regard and you might feel that, compared to your colleagues, your opinions are of little value and you are nowhere near as competent or intelligent as your workmates. If this is the case, look carefully at the rest of this article.
Two important social-cognitive skills are intrapersonal analysis and interpersonal understanding. When we talk about ‘intrapersonal’ we are talking about how well you know yourself; interpersonal is the relationship between two or more. We all have a picture of who we think we are, how competent we are, what our talents are, how personally strongly we feel, and how much we are benefiting from our life.
BarOn suggests that there are five factors in intra-personal understanding: Self-Regard, Emotional Self Awareness, Assertiveness, Independence, and Self-Actualization. Knowing something about your perceptions of each of these areas is part of emotional intelligence but it is also a way for you to understand and change how you interact with colleagues in the workplace. Unfortunately, and often as a result of child and adolescent experiences, some people have very low self regard. They don't believe they are as smart or attractive or capable as others and their low level of self-evaluation diminishes their capacity to be a strong, assertive, confident contributor to the workplace.
Some people lack assertiveness because of their low level of self regard. They often convince themselves that assertiveness is the same as aggressiveness and they refuse to promote and advocate for their own beliefs and values. Some individuals do not have the strength to form a strong and independent position or view of their life and so they rely on others for their strength and assertiveness. Finally, and unfortunately, some individuals subjugate their own goals in life to the goals of others and they never reach that high level of personal satisfaction and achievement in life that Maslow called self-actualization.
What is interesting about these intrapersonal limitations is that we are the ones who create them. We establish our own standards and evaluate ourselves constantly. If we feel uncertain or deficient we tend to defer to others, rely on colleagues for judgments and decisions, and rarely stand in the spotlight when it comes to decisions and contributions. We become the worker bees, the drones, never the Queen bee.
This is a choice we make and, of course, we can change this position if we wish. A careful review of our skills and talents should lead us to a more positive self regard. We should think carefully about what we believe in and be prepared to voice our thoughts thoughtfully and even forcefully. We should establish our independence and be proud of who we are and what we believe in. We all have the right to achieve as much as we want in this life and we should never let ourselves or other people diminish this right or this opportunity.
It is much easier for me to say these things than it is for my clients to change their behavior but unless I provide a roadmap for improved self regard and convince people that they are more important than they think, they will never self-actualize. Failure to be assertive, having low self regard, being too dependent, and letting other people have their own way increases personal stress and adds dramatically to workplace stress. If these intrapersonal characteristics are shaping the way you behave and feel at work, and if you want to be better valued and have less workplace stress, believe in yourself and make the changes today.
Dr Jeff, a psychologist, writes about workplace stress, personal stress, interpersonal stress, and how to manage stress. On his blog, http://www.drjeffbailey.com, he answers questions from readers. He works hard to make his articles practical and helpful and all of his articles are based on sound research evidence and extensive clinical experience. Please go to his Dr Jeff blog to get your free report on stress.
============================================
How to Conquer Stress
By Quang Van
One of the worst feelings you can have is to be stressed about being stress. But you would be surprise at how many people feel this way all the time.
People feel horrible a lot of the time, and then they feel horrible about feeling horrible. It is an endless cycle of bad feelings. No wonder they feel bad all the time.
If you feel this way, stuck in an endless loop of bad feelings, you have to stop. You need to get out of this loop. You must feel empowered to take action and change how you feel.
One of the key things you have to do is face your problems. You can no longer run away from them. Most of the time when you run away from the things that you are stress about, it doesn't solve anything. You might be gone for a moment but when you come back the problem is still there.
You need to take a stance and face you problems. Deal with your problems head on. Believe me, nothing is ever that complex that someone else hasn't solved before. You can use lessons from the past to solve your current problems.
I don't care what problems you have that you are stressing about. Most problems can be solved if you take the necessary steps to solve them. If you just take the steps, your problems will go away.
What if you don't know what to do? Well if you don't know what to do, it's a good thing that you acknowledge that. The next thing you have to do is find the solutions to your problems. This evolves reading, learning and listening to other people.
This evolves being open minded, trying new things, and being able to make mistakes. Because true learning takes place when you acknowledge your mistakes.
To find more about Article Marketing and Free Ezine Article Submissions. Sign-Up For My Free Article Submit Software Today. You will get the access to the free article submissions.
Highlands Ranch real estate
======================================
An Appreciation of Hans Seyle, Understanding Stress
By Bill Tallmon
My alternative health care practice was enhanced after reading Stress of Life by Hans Sleyle who expanded my ideas about stress. Seyle became a MD and Chemist in Europe in 1929, and then came from Europe to Johns Hopkins University in the USA, then in 1936 on to McGill University in Montreal to begin a lifetime of research about stress.
As early as his second year of medical school (1926), he began developing his now-famous theory of the influence of stress on human ability to cope with and adapt to the pressures of life, injury and disease. He discovered that patients with a variety of ailments manifested many similar symptoms, which he ultimately attributed to their bodies' efforts to respond to the stresses of being ill. He called this collection of symptoms the General Adaptation Syndrome (GAS) as the body passes through three stages of adapting.
• Alarm as body prepares for (fight or flight)
• A resistance to the stress
• Exhaustion and aging if stress persists
What stress is not
• Nervous tension
• A discharge of hormones
• The nonspecific result of physical damage
• Deviation from homeostasis
• The alarm reaction
• A specific or non-specific reaction
• Necessarily undesirable, depends on how you take it
So exactly what is stress?
• A neither good nor bad thing, stress is a reaction that may have good or bad effects
• Cannot and should not be avoided
• Can only be avoided by dying
Seyle spent a lifetime continuing research on GAS and wrote more than 30 books and more than 1,500 articles on stress and related problems. So impressive are his findings and theories that some authorities refer to him as "the Einstein of medicine."
Based on his research Selye later wrote:
• The Stress of Life (1956)
• On Being a Scientist (1964)
• Stress Without Distress (1974)
More than anyone else Selye demonstrated the role of emotional response that causes much of the wear and tear experienced by human beings. He died in 1982 after spending 50 years studying the cause and consequence of stress.
My name is Bill Tallmon N.D. PhD. The credentials I earned are a footnote of a personal 25 year journey to experience life free from the trap of modern medicine. My most profound appreciation is for the pioneers who blazed the path to reconnect me to nature, and see the problems and possibilities of modern life in a positive way. Human beings always try to make life a little easier, and through science and innovation have done it. Every essence of the planet, the sun, air, light, darkness, sound, rocks, plants, animals, and the invisible world all exist in the framework of nature. Humans are the only elements of nature who make a business of altering nature. We all must be wary of the motive of those who would help us. Look closely. (beyourowndoc) http://embracingnature.net
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