Impact of Words

Impact of Words
By Shveitta Sethi
Most of us have heard sayings and quotations about words. Words are just labels and yet they have the power to change your life. Often as a young teen, I would say hurtful things to my mother and actually end up really hurting her. She did try her best, but her best was never good enough for me. She was never as good a cook as my friends mother, or as good a teacher as my teacher or as well dressed as my neighbor. I always had something to pick on her.

I never did realize the power of my hurtful words till I heard something on similar lines from my daughter.

Life has a way of giving back. Just yesterday she said something like mummy everyone thinks you are pretty, but they never see you in the morning when you wake up !! I thought it was rather funny and pretended to laugh it off but when I thought about it, it actually bothered me. I thought about how I used to say things to my mother with the intention of hurting her. I thought that my daughter was purposely trying to say something to hurt me. Maybe hurting me was not her intention, but I took it as such and I started a whole debate on how she was being disrespectful and hurtful. She is still very young, so I don't think her intention was to hurt me, but I already started thinking about when she would become a teenager and say things that would hurt me to no end. All this is going on in my own little brain and I have no proof that it will happen.

This might sound a bit smug, but I think I have done a bit more research on child behavior and child psychology than my mother did. So instead of telling my daughter about the power of words and how it affects people, we did a little experiment. I had read about Masaru Emotos water experiment and how the water reacts to words. ( Google Masaru Emoto & if you don't know about it). I saw the video and was quite fascinated, but being the skeptic that I am, I had to see the results for myself. I think I must have read somewhere about the rice experiment and decided to check for myself if it was really true that what we say has an impact?

The experiment goes like this.

Take two or three jars/bottles/Tupperware. On one jar write, I LOVE YOU, on another write, I HATE YOU, and if you have a third, write IGNORE. ( I made my daughter do that)

Next take boiled/steamed rice and put equal amounts in each jar. Cover the jar and say out what you have written on the jar, so to the jar that says, I love you&say with love..I love you and to the one that says, I hate you &say with emotion..I hate you and the one that says ignore, just leave it somewhere where you may not see it and just ignore it.

Do this every day for about a week to 10 days . The results will blow your mind.

The Jar which said I love you will be all white with a few green fungus bits, The jar which had I hate you written will be all black and green mold and the ignore will be all fuzzy and moldy. I highly recommend you do the experiment to see the results for yourself.

Exactly same content, same environment, the only difference being the written word and the thought given to it. If words can do this to rice, imagine what they can do to us and to our life.

So now I had ammunition to show to my daughter. As she was the one who had done the writing, it was really her experiment. She immediately understood how what she said had an effect on people. No she has not become mother Teresa and neither have I, but we are now a bit more aware and conscious of the words we speak and the thoughts we think.

My mother used to always tell me& if you have nothing nice to say, don't bother saying it at all. But did I listen?

Well, I guess it is never too late to start.

http://www.happinessisaskill.blogspot.com

Shveitta is a life coach with a focus on happiness. Happiness is a skill like any other and with consistent practice, becomes a habit. So lets all get into the habit of being happy.

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Optimum Living - Wellness Techniques
By Robin De-Ivy Allen
On the journey to successful life design and wellness we must practice superior mental fitness before all else. This is a key wellness technique. Mental fitness is a lot like physical fitness; you must stay dedicated to doing what it takes to stay mentally fit. The steps to enhance mental fitness are as follows:

Positive Self-Talk We often fill our minds with senseless mind chatter and negative self-talk. Too many of us mentally beat up on ourselves and place self-imposed limitations on our success. You must learn to replace all negative self-talk with positive self-talk. Whenever you catch yourself thinking fearfully and doubting yourself, take a moment to check your thoughts and flip the switch to a more positive state. I agree with many experts who support the idea of repeating affirmations until they become real to you. Restate and put a positive spin on all the negative thoughts in your mind. You must believe it before you can see it! Please recite the following whenever you feel negative self-talk trying to push its way into your mind: I am a unique person whom the world has never before seen and will never see the likes of again. I was born to be good. I was born to succeed. I am here to bless the lives of others. I was born to be great because I have what it takes. I am enthusiastic, a master of myself. I'm optimistic. I am organized, I am a leader, I am a hard worker, I am a big thinker and I am happy and blessed. There isn't a thing in this world that I can't do.

Recite this passage often. Remember you are in constant training for your life design; just as an athlete trains and practices, you must do the same until these thoughts become second nature. Many people don't realize how much of an impact "stinking thinking" has on our well-beings.

Visualization To achieve what we want, we must be willing and diligent about creating a mental picture in our minds. Visualize yourself filled with energy, balanced, happy and content. Visualize yourself reaching your goals. Feel the emotion that goes along with that achievement. Creating a vision is a powerful tool. If you don't already have one, create a vision board that represents your goals and desires using pictures, whether they are photos, drawings or pictures from a magazine. Put the board in a place where you can see it often.

Empowering Mental Nourishment It is imperative that you offer yourself positive mental nourishment by reading, watching and listening to those things that support your goals. If you focus on the negative, negative things will show up in your life. Empowering mental nourishment moves you forward and is a valuable tool in strengthening your overall mental fitness.

Positive People We are the sum total of the images we see, the information we digest and the people we know. Are you associating with people you admire, people that you love to learn from, and people who have knowledge in an area that can help you? Do you have mutually beneficial relationships that consistently result in win-win situations? Who are your Power Partners? These are people who are truly in your corner and support you in your personal and professional growth, and understand your goals, values, and mission. Just as the first leap toward wellness is mastering the mind, step two is putting our physical wellness in order. Below you will find the six steps to wellness:

#1 Detox Detoxification is critical in setting the foundation of wellness. Our bodies are bombarded with toxins. Toxicity is all around us, in our food, the air, the water we drink, the fabrics of our clothing, household products and several other places. These toxins can manifest themselves in our bodies in a variety of ways, including emotional disturbance. There are many things you can do to detoxify, which range from a simple cleanse utilizing food to actually having colonic therapy. It's important to consult a professional to help you determine the best form of detox for your body.

#2 Take Nutrition Seriously Food is more powerful than any other prescription. Food can literally kill us or keep us alive. As the old adage says, "you are what you eat." When it comes to eating well, people generally know what to do, but often fail to do what they know. If we eat well 90% of the time, having "fun foods" on occasions will be just fine. The Standard American Diet is destroying us. 2/3 of Americans are actually overweight. If we don't begin to take nutrition seriously, this number will continue to rise. The opposite is true; when you eat appropriately the pounds will come off!

#3 Avoid Pharmaceuticals We are a society of quick fixes and masking our pains. When we feel pain, this is our body's way of letting us know something is not appropriate. Yet in many cases, instead of really listening to our bodies and finding the root of the issue, we take a pill. There are certainly instances where pharmaceuticals are necessary and appropriate. Drugs do not have to be the answer for most conditions.

#4 Supplement Your Diet We are unable to receive all the nutrients, herbs, vitamins and minerals we require for survival from food alone. The lack of proper nutrients in our diets is having a serious negative effect on our health and wellness. At minimal we should incorporate multi-vitamins/minerals and fish oils into our daily supplemental routine.

#5 Exercise Regularly You've heard this before. Move it lose it. Exercise keeps our hearts pumping and our skin firm. If you don't exercise your body will not work at its optimum level.

#6 Get Proper Rest Sleep is important. It's just as important as the other steps to wellness. Sleeping is how we rejuvenate our bodies. In addition to practicing our mental fitness and steps to wellness, we must always be willing to laugh, take deep breathes, smell the flowers and enjoy life.

Robin De-Ivy Allen is the founder of Necessary Nutrition, a company dedicated to helping improve the eating habits of millions of people and their families. She shows her clients how to use food and nutrition to reach their personal and professional goals. Robin can be reached at Robin@NessyNutri.com or visit http://www.NessyNutri.com

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How to Improve Attention to Detail
By Trevor Johnson
One way that can set you apart from everyone else at work is an attention to detail. This is something that is used in every industry and is something that very few people ever perfect or work on. If you learn how to improve attention to detail, you will find that not only is your boss thankful, but you will also probably rise up the tanks much quicker than your co-workers.

Now if you think this is limited to certain professions, think again. Take a basic job like a houseman in a hotel. These are the individuals that set up the banquet rooms and often start out working for minimum wage. How often have you walked into a room like this and noticed it wasn't vacuumed or the pens were not placed correctly?

Now this is an example of two people not paying attention to detail that can have incredible repercussions. First off, the houseman did not clean the room properly or put the pens down correctly. Second, when the manager checked the room and signed off on it, they were not paying attention to detail and missed these things and probably many more.

Now the client walks in and sees this and is absolutely furious. Not only do they notice the trash on the floor, but they also notice that the glasses have spots on them and the chairs are stained. They are so upset that they cancel their event and cancel all future contracts with this particular hotel.

Imagine having to explain to your boss that you are responsible for tens of thousands of dollars walking out the door. If you simply would have made a check list and followed it through the assignment, everything would have been checked and you would have noticed what was missing. Checklists are a key component to anyone that wants to improve attention to detail.

The other thing that you need to make sure you do is walk back out and come back in as the client. Would you be happy if you were paying for this product? Having those fresh eyes allows you to see things that you may normally miss. If you follow this routine, your attention to detail will improve and you will be the rising start in your company.

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The Gift of Living in the Present
By Debra Wier
Are you living life in the present, crying over the past, or dreaming about the future?

Have you ever heard the quote, "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today? Today is a gift. That's why we call it the present"?

The present or gift is now, the past and the future both reside in your mind. While it's certainly a great idea to visualize your future, it's counterproductive to spend too much time there. As for the past, there's certainly nothing wrong with taking a stroll down Memory Lane. However, it's wise to let go of that which no longer serves you and stop carrying the burden of the mistakes of your past. The past is gone and the future lives in your imagination.

We've all been guilty of not hearing the sound of opportunity knocking at one time or another. Maybe we just didn't recognize the opportunity at the time. It's the old shoulda, woulda, coulda. As for the future, taking action today is the best thing you can do to prevent you from worrying about tomorrow or having regrets. Worrying about the future is an exercise in futility. By not living in the present, we miss the beauty and joy of what's happening now.

One of my hobbies is photography, an enjoyable pursuit that allows us to capture today's images, which will become tomorrow's memories. However, artistic photography is much more than a means by which to record history, it's a true art medium.

Photography is a subtractive art form in that the photographer begins with the entire world and must selectively extract the elements that portray the essence of a place or subject. I photograph images that intrigue me on an emotional or artistic level and then do my best to capture and highlight the intrinsic charm of that magical moment.

The ability to suspend and preserve fragments in time is one of the reasons I love photography. The other is the art of seeing. It requires me to be totally in the moment, cognizant of these magnificent vignettes of everyday life. The world is my canvas and I feel privileged to share my vision of this fascinating planet with others.

Being in the moment allows you to focus on what's in front of you. Many people go through life in a trance and don't stop to take the time to live in the moment. They're going though the motions as if they're on autopilot. Some people also tend to think that by multi-tasking they're accomplishing more, when they're really not giving either task 100% of their focus.

Once I visited a physician who asked me to explain the reason for my visit. In the middle of my explanation, he began reading my chart. Not only did I find this to be quite rude, it was also quite inefficient as it's very difficult to read and listen at the same time. Notice I said I visited this physician "once"!

Think about the instances when you've been so engrossed in something that you totally lost track of time; it could be a hobby, a book, a movie, dinner with a friend, or anything you love doing. That's called living in the moment. When you're living in the moment you're living in the present. If you're not living in the present, you aren't enjoying the gift of today and the world of may never discover the gifts you might have contributed.

Debra Wier - The Metamorphosis Cafe - Becoming The Best You Can Be http://www.TheMetamorphosisCafe.com Debra Wier is committed to self growth and personal development. As such, it is her goal to inspire others to develop their potential. She also believes that one of the contributing factors to happiness is the ability to earn a living doing something you enjoy. This belief led her to research the possibilities of making money online and she is the author of the popular 40-page ebook:
How To Flood Your Bank Account With Multiple Streams Of Internet Income. Head over to http://www.TheMetamorphosisCafe.com and get your FREE copy now!
Henry David Thoreau said, The world is but a canvas to the imagination. Debra Wier says, Imagination is the spark that ignites your creative fire. It can turn paupers into millionaires and make the impossible possible. You're the maestro. Create and orchestrate the symphony of your life!

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