Jobs and CareersPractical Advice on How to Overcome Your Problems
By Lisa Granger
Let's face it. We all have problems. Problems are a part of everyday life, whether it is marital, financial, work or health related. Sometimes some problems are so overwhelming they can cause extreme stress. However, problems can be solved if you approach them in a positive light.
Start looking at problems as a way of improving your life by learning from them. You can be sure not to make the same mistake again as well as you can help others who find themselves in a similar situation.
Here is some practical advice on how to overcome your problems.
1. Find the root cause of the problem. Finding the root cause would help you to find a solution easier. For example, the cause for a child rebelling could be lack of attention. Giving the child the attention he is looking for is just one step to solving this problem. You need to ask yourself specific questions to find the root cause of a problem - what started it? Why? How bad has it become? etc
2. Don't blame others. Some people generally blame others for their problems. Granted, some problems involve other parties, however you need to accept the fact that you are also part of the problem. This would also help you to quickly find a solution.
3. Work out the best solution. There can be more than one solution to a problem. However in your quest to determine what the best solution is you need to ask yourself "how will this work out?" "who will be affected and how?" When you have thought out each scenario and are comfortable with a particular outcome, then proceed to implementation.
4. Take action. Take the necessary action to put this problem at rest once and for all. Take the example of the rebellious child. If the solution is to spend less time at work in order to spend more time with your child, then do just that immediately. Don't delay and say "well, I'll start next week or next month" - start now! It may be a sacrifice but you'll have to explain to your employer your situation and you might be surprised at how understanding he'll be. Some sacrifices have to be made in order to solve some problems.
Lisa Granger's website http://www.howtoimproveyourlife.info is a personal development site that has e-books and articles on a variety of topics that you can use to help you improve your life.
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Stuck in Shifting the Vibe? A Non-Spiritual Approach May Work Better
By Jeannette Maw
Sure, we all know about taking three deep breaths, getting grateful, or going for a walk to shift the energy when we're feeling less than fabulous.
But sometimes that just doesn't cut it. For those occasions when we're too far in the funk to reach for something positive, the good news is there are lots of other ways to shift the vibe that you may not be taking advantage of. Have you ever tried ...
* A glass of wine or a beer
* Lettin' loose a few cuss words
* Having a good cry
* Driving nowhere in particular
* Telling someone off
* A dose of rich, smooth chocolate
* A sweaty workout (that could include s-e-x)
* Good old-fashioned shopping
* Going back to bed
* A down & dirty gossip session
* Throwing something away (i.e. cleaning out the fridge, car, basement or closet)
Occasionally it helps to even just flip someone the bird or express anger in another non-permanent immediate relief-giving way.
Yes, I know it's not pretty, but guess what? Sometimes it works when nothing else does. I mean, yes, we're supposed to bless the situation and ask "What would Jesus/Buddha/Love do?" .. but sometimes we just can't get there.
Those of you familiar with Abraham's vibrational scale know why this is the case. And those not familiar with the workings of the scale ... well, you don't even need to know because let's face it - we've all felt the relief at one time or another of getting a little ticked off or distracted when we're upset.
When I personally am really stumped for finding my way back to the "feel good," and am too far out of range for Mike Dooley's Notes From the Universe to get through or an Abe CD to kick me back into gear, I rely on DVR-ed episodes of Reno 911, calling an unhappy girlfriend who never fails to remind me I've got it pretty good, or putting together a string of swear words that would shock a sailor.
And if it's a true emergency, my secret move to mellow out the vibe is an aging six pack of Bud Lime in the back of the refrigerator. (It's a four-pack now, thanks to a big tiff with my sweetie last year.)
Yes, I ho'oponopono and meditate and listen to classical guitar and pet my dogs and I'll learn EFT one of these days and keep my citrine handy and still invite interventions from Angels, but sometimes, on certain occasions, something of a completely different nature is called for. And that's okay.
I offer these suggestions in case you or someone you love also finds reprieve in any of these possibilities. And also to take the stigma off swearing. :)
"Get What You Want!" You've just attracted the best Law of Attraction Coach for hire. Jeannette Maw's Good Vibe Blog delivers attractive vibes twice a week at http://www.GoodVibeBlog.com Discover how to literally write your future with The Magic of Pray Rain Journaling: http://www.PrayRainJournal.com
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How Justifying Your Actions Can Create a Life of Pain and Suffering
By Gregory Vanden Berge
I can't tell you, how many people I've ran into, talked to on the Internet, read their life stories, watch their biographies and still come to the conclusion that most people can't justify, just about any action in their life. Anything that they have done, whether it be good or bad can be justified to benefit them in one way or another and sometimes cause harm to others.
I knew three people and used them for mental experiments. I'm not some evil Dr., but these three people had similarities and seemed to make the same choices on a regular basis. They would rarely accept blame for something that they did that was wrong. But often wouldn't let you forget about something that you accepted the blame for. Confusing, but I was dealing with all three of these people on a regular basis for about three years.
At this point in my life I don't deal with one of them at all, he justified one of his poor choices, for the last time. The two other people will remain nameless but remain in my life and there's a good chance that they will be justifying their negative comments, poor choices and bad influences for a while.
Each one of them was selfish, in their own way. They often did things that would benefit themselves, while making it sound like they were doing you a favor or it was creating a hardship for them. Their selfishness would often lead to poor choices and get them into trouble on a regular basis. Their problems impacted my life in a negative way and left me to make choices that I was rarely happy about.
Each one of them was extremely friendly. These people would light up a room and everyone they met loved them. Most of their close friends though and family members, feared them and often tried to avoid spending time with them if it was possible. The oldest one out of the group had spent many years creating his own problems and seemed to have few friends.
You probably know someone like this and if you don't, I hope you never have to deal with this personality. The more these people seem to justify their lives to other people, the more miserable they become. They seem to spend a lot of time changing the bad parts about their past and trying to paint a better picture of who they wanted to be. On the outside, they seem to be happy but on the inside their guilt from poor choices have added unwanted stress into their lives. Often these people will look older than their age from the guilt and stress that is bound up inside of them.
There is something to be said about living a life of honesty with integrity. Most of these people are happy and seem to have very little stress in their lives. There's a reason for this and they figured it out.
Choices we make
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Greg Vanden Berge is a published author, internet marketing expert, motivational inspiration to millions of people all over the world and is sharing some of his wisdom with experts in the fields of writing,marketing and personal development.
Would you still be reading this article, if you had no desire, for better life. Find out more about life changing skills.
=================================
Insight - The Invincible Ally
By Paul Hannig Ph.D.
In today's rugged landscape of geopolitical, social and individual psychology, enormous flexibility is the only virtue that you need in dealing with your life and present economic conditions. You will need to bend enough so that you don't break. This is a time where you as an individual and the collective world community are going to be taking some tough emotional, spiritual, physical and financial blows.
So, what do you need to pay attention to in order to step up to the plate and be successful?
TAKE ACTION: Whatever crisis that you face, it must be confronted swiftly and aggressively. Let's look at what our government did. It responded with interest rate cuts, tax rebates, tarp funding and fiscal stimulus. This is something that the Japanese didn't do when their economy went into the tank and suffered a 10 year bottoming out. Of course, when you act swiftly and aggressively, there may be little mistakes along the way. But, to do nothing is to invite financial and emotional disaster. Remember, the sun is still shining and the flowers will bloom as the springtime of your life is about to commence.
Even if your financial equity has fallen significantly, you still have equity in many areas of your life and your finances. However, during the aforementioned Japanese crisis, financial, political and emotional equity dropped significantly lower than the American psyche. You, and we as Americans, have the resources deep inside that can pull us up and out of any crisis. Emotionally, you can go beyond the beyond that is beyond all beyondness; if you just take the time to take care of your inner and outer business.
ATTACK YOUR FINANCIAL DEBT: Financial debt can significantly affect your emotional and spiritual well-being; including your health. You have a choice not to let financial debt influence these other areas. You can use your intellect, feelings and spirituality to uplift your spirit and eventually solve your financial problems. Try to think in terms of making your self mentally more healthy by vigorously attacking and solving your financial problems. Mental and financial help should and could be integrated. Get busy!
REBUILD AND RESTRUCTURE: Live your life by having a lot of liquidity and relatively little debt. Do you get it? Rebuild and restructure your emotional, mental and financial balance sheets. At the present time, unemployment rates are not as high as in the 1981 recession, which featured months of 10% unemployment. Don't flirt with becoming one of the 10%. One of your greatest virtues is enormous flexibility as compared with Japan's rigid thinking of the 1990s. Get rid of rigid thinking..... not only in your personal but also in your occupational and financial life.
GET SMART, REORGANIZE AND ENGAGE: You are an American and deep inside of you, you have an American archetype. Tap into it. Other people and other cultures possess psyches that plunge them into long extended Dark Nights of the Soul. Take a look at Somalia. The collective psyche of that country prevents them from coming out of total chaos and anarchy. Murder, rape and piracy are their way of coping with personal and collective disaster. This kind of mentality prevents good intentioned people from exercising their creative problem-solving abilities. Don't let your personal oppression keep you in the dumpster. Get very good at coming out of the denial phase. You can engage in partisan bickering over your situation as if it's a healthy thing. It means that you and yours are willing to openly grapple with your problems. Obviously, there has been a lot of wastefulness in your emotional, relational, occupational and spiritual life. Acknowledge your mistakes and your wastefulness and remember that the risk of inaction can stymie your progress.
BE FLEXIBLE AND EXPLORE YOUR OPTIONS: When you are rigid in your life and relationships, you cannot see the many options available to you. On a global level, you can see this in the prevalence of rigid political regimes. My ability to integrate psychological issues and geopolitical psychological types has provided my clients the opportunity to explore many personal and financial options, otherwise unavailable to them. Personal exploration leads to insight and an inner world of solution oriented answers.
Let me give you two examples. One is North Korea and the other is Iran. Both regimes reflect national psyches that are extremely rigid in their perceptions of reality. The same can be said of fascist Germany and Stalinist Communism in the 20th century. Your leadership must integrate a very flexible, negotiable, problem solving collective style. This is no time for rigidity of ego. Rigid thinking provokes anger, rage, retaliation, excessive unreal competition and eventually self-destruction. Does any of that ring a bell?
WALK THE WALK FOR CHANGE: If you want to take a closer look at the problems in the world and in your own personal life, you may want to examine the elements of threat that people pose to one another. What comes out of your mouth? Is it poison or is it a sweet savor of love? Do you talk crap or do you talk love?
What good is it if a man profits the whole world, but loses his soul? Rigidity begets more rigidity. Flexibility begets flexibility. Bend a little and you won't break ... then allow your insight to flow.
Paul J. Hannig, PH.D. MFT is a licensed California Marriage and Family Therapist offering innovative and in-depth individual and group therapy. His expertise includes Deep Feeling Therapy, core identity work, psycho-spiritual therapy, hypnotherapy, marriage/relationship counseling, and his "Abstain Now" program for addictions. He is the author of "Feeling People", "Sizzling Relationships: the 401(k) of Love", and "Coping with the Disorder" along with profiles on mood and personality disorders. His office is located in Chatsworth, CA. Telephone Therapy is available as well.
Visit PsychotherapyHELP http://www.nvo.com/psych_help for personal growth, relationship and therapy information, along with free articles to download, resources, and books and media to purchase. Watch his extraordinary video, "Deep Feeling Therapy: Healing Emotional Pain", at http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/feelingtherapy/ With the creation of PsychotherapyHELP, Dr. Paul brings over thirty years of his knowledge and expertise to all who search for answers to deep emotional pain and interpersonal problems.
By Lisa Granger
Let's face it. We all have problems. Problems are a part of everyday life, whether it is marital, financial, work or health related. Sometimes some problems are so overwhelming they can cause extreme stress. However, problems can be solved if you approach them in a positive light.
Start looking at problems as a way of improving your life by learning from them. You can be sure not to make the same mistake again as well as you can help others who find themselves in a similar situation.
Here is some practical advice on how to overcome your problems.
1. Find the root cause of the problem. Finding the root cause would help you to find a solution easier. For example, the cause for a child rebelling could be lack of attention. Giving the child the attention he is looking for is just one step to solving this problem. You need to ask yourself specific questions to find the root cause of a problem - what started it? Why? How bad has it become? etc
2. Don't blame others. Some people generally blame others for their problems. Granted, some problems involve other parties, however you need to accept the fact that you are also part of the problem. This would also help you to quickly find a solution.
3. Work out the best solution. There can be more than one solution to a problem. However in your quest to determine what the best solution is you need to ask yourself "how will this work out?" "who will be affected and how?" When you have thought out each scenario and are comfortable with a particular outcome, then proceed to implementation.
4. Take action. Take the necessary action to put this problem at rest once and for all. Take the example of the rebellious child. If the solution is to spend less time at work in order to spend more time with your child, then do just that immediately. Don't delay and say "well, I'll start next week or next month" - start now! It may be a sacrifice but you'll have to explain to your employer your situation and you might be surprised at how understanding he'll be. Some sacrifices have to be made in order to solve some problems.
Lisa Granger's website http://www.howtoimproveyourlife.info is a personal development site that has e-books and articles on a variety of topics that you can use to help you improve your life.
================================
Stuck in Shifting the Vibe? A Non-Spiritual Approach May Work Better
By Jeannette Maw
Sure, we all know about taking three deep breaths, getting grateful, or going for a walk to shift the energy when we're feeling less than fabulous.
But sometimes that just doesn't cut it. For those occasions when we're too far in the funk to reach for something positive, the good news is there are lots of other ways to shift the vibe that you may not be taking advantage of. Have you ever tried ...
* A glass of wine or a beer
* Lettin' loose a few cuss words
* Having a good cry
* Driving nowhere in particular
* Telling someone off
* A dose of rich, smooth chocolate
* A sweaty workout (that could include s-e-x)
* Good old-fashioned shopping
* Going back to bed
* A down & dirty gossip session
* Throwing something away (i.e. cleaning out the fridge, car, basement or closet)
Occasionally it helps to even just flip someone the bird or express anger in another non-permanent immediate relief-giving way.
Yes, I know it's not pretty, but guess what? Sometimes it works when nothing else does. I mean, yes, we're supposed to bless the situation and ask "What would Jesus/Buddha/Love do?" .. but sometimes we just can't get there.
Those of you familiar with Abraham's vibrational scale know why this is the case. And those not familiar with the workings of the scale ... well, you don't even need to know because let's face it - we've all felt the relief at one time or another of getting a little ticked off or distracted when we're upset.
When I personally am really stumped for finding my way back to the "feel good," and am too far out of range for Mike Dooley's Notes From the Universe to get through or an Abe CD to kick me back into gear, I rely on DVR-ed episodes of Reno 911, calling an unhappy girlfriend who never fails to remind me I've got it pretty good, or putting together a string of swear words that would shock a sailor.
And if it's a true emergency, my secret move to mellow out the vibe is an aging six pack of Bud Lime in the back of the refrigerator. (It's a four-pack now, thanks to a big tiff with my sweetie last year.)
Yes, I ho'oponopono and meditate and listen to classical guitar and pet my dogs and I'll learn EFT one of these days and keep my citrine handy and still invite interventions from Angels, but sometimes, on certain occasions, something of a completely different nature is called for. And that's okay.
I offer these suggestions in case you or someone you love also finds reprieve in any of these possibilities. And also to take the stigma off swearing. :)
"Get What You Want!" You've just attracted the best Law of Attraction Coach for hire. Jeannette Maw's Good Vibe Blog delivers attractive vibes twice a week at http://www.GoodVibeBlog.com Discover how to literally write your future with The Magic of Pray Rain Journaling: http://www.PrayRainJournal.com
=================================
How Justifying Your Actions Can Create a Life of Pain and Suffering
By Gregory Vanden Berge
I can't tell you, how many people I've ran into, talked to on the Internet, read their life stories, watch their biographies and still come to the conclusion that most people can't justify, just about any action in their life. Anything that they have done, whether it be good or bad can be justified to benefit them in one way or another and sometimes cause harm to others.
I knew three people and used them for mental experiments. I'm not some evil Dr., but these three people had similarities and seemed to make the same choices on a regular basis. They would rarely accept blame for something that they did that was wrong. But often wouldn't let you forget about something that you accepted the blame for. Confusing, but I was dealing with all three of these people on a regular basis for about three years.
At this point in my life I don't deal with one of them at all, he justified one of his poor choices, for the last time. The two other people will remain nameless but remain in my life and there's a good chance that they will be justifying their negative comments, poor choices and bad influences for a while.
Each one of them was selfish, in their own way. They often did things that would benefit themselves, while making it sound like they were doing you a favor or it was creating a hardship for them. Their selfishness would often lead to poor choices and get them into trouble on a regular basis. Their problems impacted my life in a negative way and left me to make choices that I was rarely happy about.
Each one of them was extremely friendly. These people would light up a room and everyone they met loved them. Most of their close friends though and family members, feared them and often tried to avoid spending time with them if it was possible. The oldest one out of the group had spent many years creating his own problems and seemed to have few friends.
You probably know someone like this and if you don't, I hope you never have to deal with this personality. The more these people seem to justify their lives to other people, the more miserable they become. They seem to spend a lot of time changing the bad parts about their past and trying to paint a better picture of who they wanted to be. On the outside, they seem to be happy but on the inside their guilt from poor choices have added unwanted stress into their lives. Often these people will look older than their age from the guilt and stress that is bound up inside of them.
There is something to be said about living a life of honesty with integrity. Most of these people are happy and seem to have very little stress in their lives. There's a reason for this and they figured it out.
Choices we make
You are free to copy this article to your site as long as you include the following resource information with an active link to my site:
Greg Vanden Berge is a published author, internet marketing expert, motivational inspiration to millions of people all over the world and is sharing some of his wisdom with experts in the fields of writing,marketing and personal development.
Would you still be reading this article, if you had no desire, for better life. Find out more about life changing skills.
=================================
Insight - The Invincible Ally
By Paul Hannig Ph.D.
In today's rugged landscape of geopolitical, social and individual psychology, enormous flexibility is the only virtue that you need in dealing with your life and present economic conditions. You will need to bend enough so that you don't break. This is a time where you as an individual and the collective world community are going to be taking some tough emotional, spiritual, physical and financial blows.
So, what do you need to pay attention to in order to step up to the plate and be successful?
TAKE ACTION: Whatever crisis that you face, it must be confronted swiftly and aggressively. Let's look at what our government did. It responded with interest rate cuts, tax rebates, tarp funding and fiscal stimulus. This is something that the Japanese didn't do when their economy went into the tank and suffered a 10 year bottoming out. Of course, when you act swiftly and aggressively, there may be little mistakes along the way. But, to do nothing is to invite financial and emotional disaster. Remember, the sun is still shining and the flowers will bloom as the springtime of your life is about to commence.
Even if your financial equity has fallen significantly, you still have equity in many areas of your life and your finances. However, during the aforementioned Japanese crisis, financial, political and emotional equity dropped significantly lower than the American psyche. You, and we as Americans, have the resources deep inside that can pull us up and out of any crisis. Emotionally, you can go beyond the beyond that is beyond all beyondness; if you just take the time to take care of your inner and outer business.
ATTACK YOUR FINANCIAL DEBT: Financial debt can significantly affect your emotional and spiritual well-being; including your health. You have a choice not to let financial debt influence these other areas. You can use your intellect, feelings and spirituality to uplift your spirit and eventually solve your financial problems. Try to think in terms of making your self mentally more healthy by vigorously attacking and solving your financial problems. Mental and financial help should and could be integrated. Get busy!
REBUILD AND RESTRUCTURE: Live your life by having a lot of liquidity and relatively little debt. Do you get it? Rebuild and restructure your emotional, mental and financial balance sheets. At the present time, unemployment rates are not as high as in the 1981 recession, which featured months of 10% unemployment. Don't flirt with becoming one of the 10%. One of your greatest virtues is enormous flexibility as compared with Japan's rigid thinking of the 1990s. Get rid of rigid thinking..... not only in your personal but also in your occupational and financial life.
GET SMART, REORGANIZE AND ENGAGE: You are an American and deep inside of you, you have an American archetype. Tap into it. Other people and other cultures possess psyches that plunge them into long extended Dark Nights of the Soul. Take a look at Somalia. The collective psyche of that country prevents them from coming out of total chaos and anarchy. Murder, rape and piracy are their way of coping with personal and collective disaster. This kind of mentality prevents good intentioned people from exercising their creative problem-solving abilities. Don't let your personal oppression keep you in the dumpster. Get very good at coming out of the denial phase. You can engage in partisan bickering over your situation as if it's a healthy thing. It means that you and yours are willing to openly grapple with your problems. Obviously, there has been a lot of wastefulness in your emotional, relational, occupational and spiritual life. Acknowledge your mistakes and your wastefulness and remember that the risk of inaction can stymie your progress.
BE FLEXIBLE AND EXPLORE YOUR OPTIONS: When you are rigid in your life and relationships, you cannot see the many options available to you. On a global level, you can see this in the prevalence of rigid political regimes. My ability to integrate psychological issues and geopolitical psychological types has provided my clients the opportunity to explore many personal and financial options, otherwise unavailable to them. Personal exploration leads to insight and an inner world of solution oriented answers.
Let me give you two examples. One is North Korea and the other is Iran. Both regimes reflect national psyches that are extremely rigid in their perceptions of reality. The same can be said of fascist Germany and Stalinist Communism in the 20th century. Your leadership must integrate a very flexible, negotiable, problem solving collective style. This is no time for rigidity of ego. Rigid thinking provokes anger, rage, retaliation, excessive unreal competition and eventually self-destruction. Does any of that ring a bell?
WALK THE WALK FOR CHANGE: If you want to take a closer look at the problems in the world and in your own personal life, you may want to examine the elements of threat that people pose to one another. What comes out of your mouth? Is it poison or is it a sweet savor of love? Do you talk crap or do you talk love?
What good is it if a man profits the whole world, but loses his soul? Rigidity begets more rigidity. Flexibility begets flexibility. Bend a little and you won't break ... then allow your insight to flow.
Paul J. Hannig, PH.D. MFT is a licensed California Marriage and Family Therapist offering innovative and in-depth individual and group therapy. His expertise includes Deep Feeling Therapy, core identity work, psycho-spiritual therapy, hypnotherapy, marriage/relationship counseling, and his "Abstain Now" program for addictions. He is the author of "Feeling People", "Sizzling Relationships: the 401(k) of Love", and "Coping with the Disorder" along with profiles on mood and personality disorders. His office is located in Chatsworth, CA. Telephone Therapy is available as well.
Visit PsychotherapyHELP http://www.nvo.com/psych_help for personal growth, relationship and therapy information, along with free articles to download, resources, and books and media to purchase. Watch his extraordinary video, "Deep Feeling Therapy: Healing Emotional Pain", at http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/feelingtherapy/ With the creation of PsychotherapyHELP, Dr. Paul brings over thirty years of his knowledge and expertise to all who search for answers to deep emotional pain and interpersonal problems.
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