Jobs and CareersStress Management Techniques For Men and Women
By Steve Davidson Ph.D. and Beth M. Griffith
Work, family, credit card debt, mortgage(s), finances, in-laws; what goes through your mind and how does your body react when you think of what each one of these words means to you?
Take Sam and Sally as an example. Hard-working Sam just received news he's been laid-off from his job that has provided for his family for the past 15 years. He's got a family, two mortgages, credit card debt, and elderly in-laws requiring additional care each year. Sam comes home to find his wife, Sally, making dinner for their two children. She takes one look at Sam's face and knows something's wrong. (Sam, actually, might be in mild shock!)
In an attempt to create a relaxing diversion, Sam retreats to the family room, sits on the couch, turns on the television and stays focused on the screen. Sally comes in and asks the inevitable question "what's wrong?" After much prodding, Sam let's her know he's been let go from his job. Sally wants to talk about it and Sam wants to continue watching television, thinking if there's nothing he can do and no way to solve the problem, then why talk about it? Sally immediately gets on the phone with her closest friend and spends an hour processing what just happened. Sam retreats, Sally connects.
Here are some communication suggestions to also help reduce Sam and Sally's stress:
How Sam can relate to Sally: Talk in terms of feelings, friendships, supports - talk in terms of emotions and right brain functions. What does she need from him to make it though the day with lower stress? It's probably less than he imagines. Just asking how she's doing a couple of times a day goes a long way. And a little quiet time with him at the end of the day helps a lot too, a chance to share her thoughts and feelings, and hear his plans.
How Sally can relate to Sam: Talk in terms of concrete, task-oriented reality - talk in terms of logic and left-brain functions. In a supportive way, ask him how the search is going. Be prepared for a detailed response. "I called this guy, and he said so-and-so, so I have a meeting with him tomorrow. Then I called another company and they said to send a resume, so I just did that." And so on.
Here are some stress management tips for stress relief:
Sally:
1. Stay connected. Good friends are a big support and nurturing. Strive to maintain healthy relationships with the people you surround yourself with.
2. Reward yourself at the end of a stressful day. Before bedtime, put aside your concerns for a brief period and allow yourself to fully relax, even if it's just a few moments of deep breathing. Remember, you need time to recharge and energize yourself to face another day.
3. Track your tensions. If you have a daily affirmations book, or a journal, you can rate your stress level every day from 1-10. This will give you a good gauge of where you are and where you want to be.
4. Track the causes. Keep a few notes of what happens each day. When something comes up, rate your stress level, and over time you will begin to see patterns of what is causing your stress.
Sam:
1. Take a deep breath and don't panic: You're a problem-solver so begin to take stock of where you are with finances, savings, etc.
2. Set up a 4-step job-search plan, all logically linked and in order :
a. Map out a plan: Look at a map. Draw some kind of shape around your home, going as far out as you are comfortable driving. That's your search space.
b. List your job options: Google in your field, and the towns within your search space. Those are your job options. Log the address and phone numbers.
c. Schedule contacts: Write the names of the companies you like best on a schedule, and start calling, say 10 in the morning, and 10 in the afternoon. Within a week you should have a list of interviews set up.
d. Set up time with a career coach to keep you on track and accountable.
3. Don't procrastinate: Taking control of the job search process and practicing effective time management should help your stress level fall.
4. Take a break: A walk around the block or some deep breathing can help clear your head, keep you calm and give you a new perspective.
Stress Management for men and women may differ but the goal is the same.
Reducing stress through stress management techniques will strengthen your relationships and help you live a more fulfilling and happier life.
Dr. Davidson, PhD is a licensed psychologist, and offers individual counseling, testing of intelligence and personality, and organizational training on issues of communication and stress management. Visit http://psychologisttesting.com/
Beth Griffith, CPCC, ACC is a certified life coach in Orange County, CA, specializing in personal empowerment, life balance, attitudinal healing, and couples coaching. Visit http://www.bethgriffith.com
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Prayer and Stress Relief - 4 Different Approaches to Praying That Help Relieve Stress and Anxiety
By Elisabeth Kuhn
Prayer for stress relief? Almost sounds a bit sacrilegious... Yet those of us who pray know that prayer works. Jesus himself used it when he had to get through challenging times. And praying works very well for us too -- for relieving stress and anxiety, for giving us the faith and trust that we will be alright and that we will be guided to take the actions that will get us there.
Here are four ways in which praying can help relief stress and anxiety.
1) Direct prayer
Pray for yourself. Pray for guidance, for help, for whatever makes you feel better. Have a conversation with your Higher Power and ask for help, insight, strength, and guidance. And then, release the issue to God and have faith that all will be well.
2) Pray with others
You could call a friend, or pray with someone at your place of worship. Or you could call a prayer line where people will pray with you.
The one that has helped me through many a challenging time is the Unity prayer line at 1-800-NOW-PRAY. They are there 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and their prayers are wonderful. They will also add you to a prayer list afterwards and continue to pray for you for an additional 30 days -- and they'll send you a letter of support if you would like that.
3) Meditate
Meditation -- or just being quiet and listening to the voice within -- is another form of prayer. Praying the rosary can also be seen as a meditation at some level. I rediscovered the rosary when I went through times of extreme stress and was amazed by its calming power.
4) Pray for others
Either join your place of worship's prayer team if there is one, or create a list of your own with people who you would like to pray for. Then pray for them. You'll be surprised how much that helps calm your own concerns. And, of course, since your name should be on that list too, you'll be including yourself in your prayers.
And if you'd like more stress tips, you're invited to get Elisabeth Kuhn's FREE stress-busting strategies report and reclaim your inner calm.
And please visit Elisabeth's eclectic self-help blog for more resources for Body, Health, Spirit, and Prosperity.
=======================================
Small Selfish Pleasures in Stressful Times
By Roberta Perry
To read the headlines, it is no wonder people are walking around in a perpetual state of stress. The economy is in flux, a new administration is underway and unemployment is at frighteningly high levels. The stress of caring for ourselves and our loved ones grows as quickly as the pile of unpaid bills. We begin to feel anxious, tired, and depressed.
We continually ask ourselves how will we be able to do anything to get out of this seemingly endless mess. Our first instinct is to take care of, and give to others and forget ourselves. However, similar to airplane emergency oxygen situations, when the instructions lead you to secure your own mask prior to helping others secure theirs, you are not going to help others very well unless you help yourself first. This theory has proven itself time and time again.
The key to stress reduction is the ability to allow ourselves to indulge in small selfish necessary pleasures. These stress reducers need not cost anything, and this is not as "selfish" as it seems, either. The actions are actually self-loving, instead. The small act of taking care of oneself, on a daily basis, not only makes us feel better about life and ourselves in general, but it also empowers and enables us to perform other tasks more effectively and with more passion for others, because we do not feel neglected in the equations. That is a winning combination.
Small pleasures include: taking one day a week to go to bed earlier or to sleep in, even if only for an additional 15 minutes; taking a short, brisk walk as often as possible, actually absorbing and appreciating your surroundings; petting a beloved animal for a full 5 minutes; sitting outside, or by the window, with a steaming cup of something, watching the world go by and feeling good about having stepped off its whirlwind for a full 10 minutes; calling a loved one just to say hello, making sure you only discuss happy things; cooking a healthy dinner with family or friends and making it a joy, not a chore; watching a situation comedy just for the laugh of it; taking a longer than usual bath or shower, maybe with some music playing, and pampering yourself with a treatment that will invigorate, smooth and soothe your skin and body. More pricey but obviously fantastic stress reducers are: facials and massages; shopping sprees; going to the movies, theater, museum or something of that type; lunch or dinner out with friends; vacations, etc., however, those are not everyday pleasures and specialists agree that the key to dealing effectively with stress is to care for it on a day to day basis.
No matter which small pleasure we choose to indulge in, the end result will be the same. Taking care of oneself encourages feelings of self worth, self renewal, self awareness and self love that will in turn translate to a better, more productive and ready to face anything attitude.
The world, its beauties, its problems and all of its never ending stream of "stuff" will constantly be thrown at us without explanation or warning, and there is not much that can be done with the majority of it all. Our reactions to it are the only thing we have control of. If we allow ourselves the selfish little moments along the way, we will face our challenges with a lot less stress no matter what.
I am lucky enough to have started my company, Scrubz Body Scrub, Inc., http://www.scrubzbodyscrub.com around a product line I not only believe in, but absolutely love to use on myself and my family on a daily basis. Besides selling in retail locations and online, we have created a wonderful work at home type vendor program, a commission based rep program, as well as a fund raising program, so our company helps needy organizations at the same time it is growing. We host a Breast Cancer Awareness Fund Raiser every October for Komen Greater NYC, as well as have created an exclusive scent which donates 50% of every jar. Our company hopes to expand our reach both domestically and internationally, helping teach others about affordable, effective and natural skin care, while having fun and being nice along the way!
By Steve Davidson Ph.D. and Beth M. Griffith
Work, family, credit card debt, mortgage(s), finances, in-laws; what goes through your mind and how does your body react when you think of what each one of these words means to you?
Take Sam and Sally as an example. Hard-working Sam just received news he's been laid-off from his job that has provided for his family for the past 15 years. He's got a family, two mortgages, credit card debt, and elderly in-laws requiring additional care each year. Sam comes home to find his wife, Sally, making dinner for their two children. She takes one look at Sam's face and knows something's wrong. (Sam, actually, might be in mild shock!)
In an attempt to create a relaxing diversion, Sam retreats to the family room, sits on the couch, turns on the television and stays focused on the screen. Sally comes in and asks the inevitable question "what's wrong?" After much prodding, Sam let's her know he's been let go from his job. Sally wants to talk about it and Sam wants to continue watching television, thinking if there's nothing he can do and no way to solve the problem, then why talk about it? Sally immediately gets on the phone with her closest friend and spends an hour processing what just happened. Sam retreats, Sally connects.
Here are some communication suggestions to also help reduce Sam and Sally's stress:
How Sam can relate to Sally: Talk in terms of feelings, friendships, supports - talk in terms of emotions and right brain functions. What does she need from him to make it though the day with lower stress? It's probably less than he imagines. Just asking how she's doing a couple of times a day goes a long way. And a little quiet time with him at the end of the day helps a lot too, a chance to share her thoughts and feelings, and hear his plans.
How Sally can relate to Sam: Talk in terms of concrete, task-oriented reality - talk in terms of logic and left-brain functions. In a supportive way, ask him how the search is going. Be prepared for a detailed response. "I called this guy, and he said so-and-so, so I have a meeting with him tomorrow. Then I called another company and they said to send a resume, so I just did that." And so on.
Here are some stress management tips for stress relief:
Sally:
1. Stay connected. Good friends are a big support and nurturing. Strive to maintain healthy relationships with the people you surround yourself with.
2. Reward yourself at the end of a stressful day. Before bedtime, put aside your concerns for a brief period and allow yourself to fully relax, even if it's just a few moments of deep breathing. Remember, you need time to recharge and energize yourself to face another day.
3. Track your tensions. If you have a daily affirmations book, or a journal, you can rate your stress level every day from 1-10. This will give you a good gauge of where you are and where you want to be.
4. Track the causes. Keep a few notes of what happens each day. When something comes up, rate your stress level, and over time you will begin to see patterns of what is causing your stress.
Sam:
1. Take a deep breath and don't panic: You're a problem-solver so begin to take stock of where you are with finances, savings, etc.
2. Set up a 4-step job-search plan, all logically linked and in order :
a. Map out a plan: Look at a map. Draw some kind of shape around your home, going as far out as you are comfortable driving. That's your search space.
b. List your job options: Google in your field, and the towns within your search space. Those are your job options. Log the address and phone numbers.
c. Schedule contacts: Write the names of the companies you like best on a schedule, and start calling, say 10 in the morning, and 10 in the afternoon. Within a week you should have a list of interviews set up.
d. Set up time with a career coach to keep you on track and accountable.
3. Don't procrastinate: Taking control of the job search process and practicing effective time management should help your stress level fall.
4. Take a break: A walk around the block or some deep breathing can help clear your head, keep you calm and give you a new perspective.
Stress Management for men and women may differ but the goal is the same.
Reducing stress through stress management techniques will strengthen your relationships and help you live a more fulfilling and happier life.
Dr. Davidson, PhD is a licensed psychologist, and offers individual counseling, testing of intelligence and personality, and organizational training on issues of communication and stress management. Visit http://psychologisttesting.com/
Beth Griffith, CPCC, ACC is a certified life coach in Orange County, CA, specializing in personal empowerment, life balance, attitudinal healing, and couples coaching. Visit http://www.bethgriffith.com
=======================================
Prayer and Stress Relief - 4 Different Approaches to Praying That Help Relieve Stress and Anxiety
By Elisabeth Kuhn
Prayer for stress relief? Almost sounds a bit sacrilegious... Yet those of us who pray know that prayer works. Jesus himself used it when he had to get through challenging times. And praying works very well for us too -- for relieving stress and anxiety, for giving us the faith and trust that we will be alright and that we will be guided to take the actions that will get us there.
Here are four ways in which praying can help relief stress and anxiety.
1) Direct prayer
Pray for yourself. Pray for guidance, for help, for whatever makes you feel better. Have a conversation with your Higher Power and ask for help, insight, strength, and guidance. And then, release the issue to God and have faith that all will be well.
2) Pray with others
You could call a friend, or pray with someone at your place of worship. Or you could call a prayer line where people will pray with you.
The one that has helped me through many a challenging time is the Unity prayer line at 1-800-NOW-PRAY. They are there 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and their prayers are wonderful. They will also add you to a prayer list afterwards and continue to pray for you for an additional 30 days -- and they'll send you a letter of support if you would like that.
3) Meditate
Meditation -- or just being quiet and listening to the voice within -- is another form of prayer. Praying the rosary can also be seen as a meditation at some level. I rediscovered the rosary when I went through times of extreme stress and was amazed by its calming power.
4) Pray for others
Either join your place of worship's prayer team if there is one, or create a list of your own with people who you would like to pray for. Then pray for them. You'll be surprised how much that helps calm your own concerns. And, of course, since your name should be on that list too, you'll be including yourself in your prayers.
And if you'd like more stress tips, you're invited to get Elisabeth Kuhn's FREE stress-busting strategies report and reclaim your inner calm.
And please visit Elisabeth's eclectic self-help blog for more resources for Body, Health, Spirit, and Prosperity.
=======================================
Small Selfish Pleasures in Stressful Times
By Roberta Perry
To read the headlines, it is no wonder people are walking around in a perpetual state of stress. The economy is in flux, a new administration is underway and unemployment is at frighteningly high levels. The stress of caring for ourselves and our loved ones grows as quickly as the pile of unpaid bills. We begin to feel anxious, tired, and depressed.
We continually ask ourselves how will we be able to do anything to get out of this seemingly endless mess. Our first instinct is to take care of, and give to others and forget ourselves. However, similar to airplane emergency oxygen situations, when the instructions lead you to secure your own mask prior to helping others secure theirs, you are not going to help others very well unless you help yourself first. This theory has proven itself time and time again.
The key to stress reduction is the ability to allow ourselves to indulge in small selfish necessary pleasures. These stress reducers need not cost anything, and this is not as "selfish" as it seems, either. The actions are actually self-loving, instead. The small act of taking care of oneself, on a daily basis, not only makes us feel better about life and ourselves in general, but it also empowers and enables us to perform other tasks more effectively and with more passion for others, because we do not feel neglected in the equations. That is a winning combination.
Small pleasures include: taking one day a week to go to bed earlier or to sleep in, even if only for an additional 15 minutes; taking a short, brisk walk as often as possible, actually absorbing and appreciating your surroundings; petting a beloved animal for a full 5 minutes; sitting outside, or by the window, with a steaming cup of something, watching the world go by and feeling good about having stepped off its whirlwind for a full 10 minutes; calling a loved one just to say hello, making sure you only discuss happy things; cooking a healthy dinner with family or friends and making it a joy, not a chore; watching a situation comedy just for the laugh of it; taking a longer than usual bath or shower, maybe with some music playing, and pampering yourself with a treatment that will invigorate, smooth and soothe your skin and body. More pricey but obviously fantastic stress reducers are: facials and massages; shopping sprees; going to the movies, theater, museum or something of that type; lunch or dinner out with friends; vacations, etc., however, those are not everyday pleasures and specialists agree that the key to dealing effectively with stress is to care for it on a day to day basis.
No matter which small pleasure we choose to indulge in, the end result will be the same. Taking care of oneself encourages feelings of self worth, self renewal, self awareness and self love that will in turn translate to a better, more productive and ready to face anything attitude.
The world, its beauties, its problems and all of its never ending stream of "stuff" will constantly be thrown at us without explanation or warning, and there is not much that can be done with the majority of it all. Our reactions to it are the only thing we have control of. If we allow ourselves the selfish little moments along the way, we will face our challenges with a lot less stress no matter what.
I am lucky enough to have started my company, Scrubz Body Scrub, Inc., http://www.scrubzbodyscrub.com around a product line I not only believe in, but absolutely love to use on myself and my family on a daily basis. Besides selling in retail locations and online, we have created a wonderful work at home type vendor program, a commission based rep program, as well as a fund raising program, so our company helps needy organizations at the same time it is growing. We host a Breast Cancer Awareness Fund Raiser every October for Komen Greater NYC, as well as have created an exclusive scent which donates 50% of every jar. Our company hopes to expand our reach both domestically and internationally, helping teach others about affordable, effective and natural skin care, while having fun and being nice along the way!
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